'Slut' Shaming

[Arimetal]

This is a topic I've been meaning to make for a while. I've been scared to talk about it though since this site is pg-13. I think this topic can be handled maturely though, so I want to know how YCM feels about it.

 

To me, it isn't anything to be shamed for. People love intimacy, why should they be looked down upon for enjoying sexual acts? No, adultery is one thing, but if they aren't in a relationship, then what is the problem?

 

Don't get me wrong, I don't think every should have sex with their neighbor's cousin, but what's the problem with it?

[Susie]

Its a bit of a weird issue kinda funny how females get words like slut, whore, hoe etc. for their own sexuality but those words dont very much apply to men in just about any case. I really do think that embracing sexuality is a great thing but there really is a limit. We should acknowledge that sexual desires are fundamental aspects of a human being but we should also be aware of how to control it. Dont let your own sexual desires become part of your own personality but dont repress them if they must come out because thats just detrimental.

[Forest Fire]

i honestly don't think there's a problem with being a "slut".

heck, if you're in a relationship and your partner doesn't mind you sleeping with other people, that's fine too.

you do you, you know? *lenny face*

[VCR_CAT]

This is a topic I've been meaning to make for a while. I've been scared to talk about it though since this site is pg-13. I think this topic can be handled maturely though, so I want to know how YCM feels about it.

 

To me, it isn't anything to be shamed for. People love intimacy, why should they be looked down upon for enjoying sexual acts? No, adultery is one thing, but if they aren't in a relationship, then what is the problem?

 

Don't get me wrong, I don't think every should have sex with their neighbor's cousin, but what's the problem with it?

 

Everyone has different views on what's right/wrong on different things, and unfortunately some people haven't reached the point of accepting that some people just have different values that there's no point in trying to change.

 

But, nobody likes having other people's values forced upon them. In the case of this thread, 'slut shaming' is more or less some people forcing their values on others, and it's worth considering that, to these people when they see media/others expressing their sexuality more... liberally (at least to the point that it's beyond their comfort zone), they might see it as those people forcing their values onto them.

 

I've been raised in a fairly conservative environment (shocker, but I'm not more liberal now because of backlash to that). I can say for myself that I view sexuality as a higher degree of intimacy. Lettin' someone you like see your parts is a fairly big step for most people at first (a lot of people have insecurities about their own body and nudity has been used as an image for vulnerability in literature a lot etc. etc. etc. it's a real thing; read the book sometime), and to me that's not something I really want to share with just any other person. Sexuality is a big step in intimacy, and not one I really encourage to be taken lightly when it comes to relationships. So, I practice abstinence-before-marriage as a way to ground a relationship before that step in intimacy is taken.

 

I mean, another way to look at it is more-or-less that: not-having-sex isn't going to kill you, and it's not going to rekt your life. There's more to life than sex, and I'm sure a lot of you can agree on that.

 

You're free to disagree, of course. You're all free to make your own choices in sexuality/etc; and of course every relationship is going to be different. and that's all good. I'm not saying that how I view it is the end-all-be-all. I'm more-or-less saying this to offer a different perspective on the whole thing; it's not all just blindly accepting age-old traditions without questions.

 

I meant, slut-shaming isn't really all that cool. Unless someone's lifestyle choice is illegal/dangerous to others, it's typically not that great to shame people for what they're doing. I mean, "Just Don't Be A Dick" - VCR, 2015

[Ryusei the Morning Star]

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[(GigaDrillBreaker)]

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First off: post quality, man.

 

Second, it is totally possible for someone to practice completely safe sex and be an absolute cockmonger at the same time.

 

There is nothing inherently wrong with being comfortable with your sexuality and/or being sexually active, but it is important while in a relationship that you take your partner's feelings into account. Like, I really can't stress that enough. Sex and sexuality are great, but not when it breaks the heart of someone dear to you.

[Ryusei the Morning Star]

First off: post quality, man.

 

Second, it is totally possible for someone to practice completely safe sex and be an absolute cockmonger at the same time.

 

There is nothing inherently wrong with being comfortable with your sexuality and/or being sexually active, but it is important while in a relationship that you take your partner's feelings into account. Like, I really can't stress that enough. Sex and sexuality are great, but not when it breaks the heart of someone dear to you.

I mean that's why slut-shaming is a thing

 

Either you sleep around an a male ego is bruised seeing that he's not the center of the universe

 

Or

 

You gave him a bug and he's pissed

 

If anything virgin shaming is the bigger problem in society 

 

No pt writing a novel when the reason is simple

[(GigaDrillBreaker)]

Well, it stems from thousands of years of males pursuing and having multiple sexual partners, with females not having the same liberties.

 

The sheer concept of a slut violates these things that are hardwired into our instinct and culture, with seductive female figures being portrayed as villains in Norse, Greco-Roman, and Abrahamic texts.

[Blake]

Well, it stems from thousands of years of males pursuing and having multiple sexual partners, with females not having the same liberties.

The sheer concept of a slut violates these things that are hardwired into our instinct and culture, with seductive female figures being portrayed as villains in Norse, Greco-Roman, and Abrahamic texts.

Unless I'm forgetting someone, it's 1-1 in the Bible.

 

Delilah is a villain for selling out her man, and she's presented seductively, but there's also King David, who had a man killed to take his wife, and he isn't let off the hook for it.

 

There are mentions of prostitutes in a metaphorical villainous role, but there are also multiple prostitutes presented as everyday people (even when society disagrees in those situations)/small heroes, such as the woman living in the wall of Jericho.

 

Not actually much of it in the Bible. Can't speak for the Quran, but yeah.

[Fusion X. Denver]

It's another one of those dumb societal double standards where guys are congratulated for having multiple sex partners and women are looked down for the having the same. I don't think anyone has the right to intrude upon someone else's sex life, unless they're your partner and there's cheating afoot. 

[Tentacruel]

There's a fuckton of double standards around this.  Basically, you can't tell people what do with their own body. 

 

That being said, a lot of people on the more liberal side are just as bad.  Some people have very different views on sexuality, shoving a more open lifestyle down their throat is no better.