Kissing Up

[Snatch Steal]

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Recently, I got mauled by angry imgurians for reposting a picture of a dog, "acting like it was mine", and "begging for attention" (which is literally the entire purpose of imgur, so that made no sense). At least two people started downvoting all of my posts and comments, resulting in me losing well upwards of 20 points.

 

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The real reason I got mauled, though, was because the conversation between myself and them escalated very quickly. I wonder what would have happened if I apologized instead of getting defensive.

 

The thing is, that's how I was really feeling, and it feels unfair that I should be penalized for that.

 

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TL;DR:

 

Is it better to let people walk all over you, give empty compliments, and paint a better picture of yourself than you actually are, or should you be blunt, honest, and open, despite whatever social disadvantages it may have?

 

Essentially, personal acceptance versus social acceptance. 

 

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[Simping For Hina]

If you have to work to be socially accepted because of your view, then you need to find a new social playground. Kissing up should only be used to get yourself into a better position, not to be accepted due to having similarities and accepting defeat. You kiss up to people who are up and above you, not to people who can be considered your equals because you care to what they think, as it gets you no where.

[LordCowCowCowCowCowCowCowCow]

Kissing up should only be considered with your superiors. It's an annoying process but refusing to do so is immature and will result in more problems than its worth.

Pretty much can't say much more than Dae with the whole kissing up to others besides that being pointless...

 

But to be specific. You have no reason to kiss up to people who are clearly just not going to accept a simple disagreement. However, I will say that getting defensive doesn't do much good, especially on the internet. People are quite set in their ways and, unless it's people you will see often, it's better to ignore it. Or explain your view and leave once people start being unreasonable.

I come from experience here that continuously defending your point when the other side simply disagrees often leads to trouble. Unless of course the purpose is to debate it.