It's time to make a friend!

[MiracleGhost47]

So, I have a vacation booked tomorrow. I'll probably be away for a week. Until then, I have a little question for you folk.

 

Friends are wonderful, am I right?  Some make friends by engaging in small talk with random people they come across. Some prefer to wait for strangers to start the conversation instead. Others prefer to stalk strangers from the shadows before having the potential confidence to go meet them. The list goes on. How do you prefer to make friends? 

 

Edit: Back early due to bad weather. 

[Zauls]

I meet friends of friends and then we get drunk.

[Arctic55]

I go up to someone and start with a compliment on something they have, or a question about something they have.  Then make small talk from there.  #FriendsOfEveryone

[ENMaker]

I do social experiments and build friendships with my targets after I've established with them that it's just a prank bro it's just a social experiment calm down.

[Yui]

I look for a common ground to use as a starting point then go trial & error from there. It's easier for people to become friends if they have a common interest, which was ultimately how I wound up in the RP circle then wound up staying with them when I found other common interests with most of the section's members. Basically people bond over liking the same stuff.

 

i.e. if you see somebody's got a piece of Pokemon stuff on them, you could go "Oh hey I like your Pokemon (object)!" and provided they're not a total jabroni you've got yourself the start to a friend-making conversation. I'd advise taking the initiative with this approach since there's no telling if the other person will.

[Ryusei the Morning Star]

Just be a compassionate person. A little kindness goes a long way. This hold true for making friends and being successful in general

[MiracleGhost47]

I look for a common ground to use as a starting point then go trial & error from there. It's easier for people to become friends if they have a common interest, which was ultimately how I wound up in the RP circle then wound up staying with them when I found other common interests with most of the section's members. Basically people bond over liking the same stuff.

 

i.e. if you see somebody's got a piece of Pokemon stuff on them, you could go "Oh hey I like your Pokemon (object)!" and provided they're not a total a****** you've got yourself the start to a friend-making conversation. I'd advise taking the initiative with this approach since there's no telling if the other person will.

I wasn't looking for advice. I was asking the question for a different reason.

[epicmemesbro]

Most of the friends that I had attained in the past where entirely situational. I feel as though there is no need of engaging tedious tasks to earn ones friendship but rather attain it "as we go". No need for small talk. Of course when this happens can be unpredictable and one do sent have much say in whom they get to meet which means you wouldn't make friends with type of people that you would prefer. Of course one can try their odds by creating this situation themselves. The last friends that I had were gained entirely by coincidence. They were amusing folk but I had little in common with them...

[Simping For Hina]

Just be a compassionate person. A little kindness goes a long way. This hold true for making friends and being successful in general

I actually agree with this little fuckcarp.

[Tinkerer]

I don't make friends. But that's not the question, huh?

 

In terms of how I'd prefer to make friends? Hmm... My interests tend to be very powerful but very short-lived. I'd like to make a friend through bonding of interests. If I hear someone speaking on my current interest, it should immediately give an opening to talk about that and other stuff.

 

...of course it doesn't work like that for me. I tend to comment on that thing that caught my interest... Then leave the conversation before it becomes, well, a conversation.

 

(*´>д<)

[MiracleGhost47]

I don't make friends. But that's not the question, huh?

 

In terms of how I'd prefer to make friends? Hmm... My interests tend to be very powerful but very short-lived. I'd like to make a friend through bonding of interests. If I hear someone speaking on my current interest, it should immediately give an opening to talk about that and other stuff.

 

...of course it doesn't work like that for me. I tend to comment on that thing that caught my interest... Then leave the conversation before it becomes, well, a conversation.

 

(*´>д<)

I get what you mean. It's hard to make friends when your interests constantly change. Hopefully, you'll learn to cope. 

[Flash Flyer - Sakura]

I generally wait for the other person to make the first move (although it probably depends on the environment and the subject). If things go well, then it's a start; otherwise, it's not a big deal. Or in the case of some of my friends here (from long ago), having the same interests and stuff helped in the long run, albeit a lot of them are gone now. 

 

RL, I have very few friends, but that could be attributed to me being distant towards people at times (likely due to college and whatever factors exist there) and likely conflicting interests. If I had more in common and opened up to people more, then I might've had more at this time. (I don't follow a lot of the fads people in college are liking at the moment, and a few of them are indeed awkward).

 

The friends I do have RL are basically because of shared interests (which amounts to Pokemon nowadays) and other misc. things.

[Trebuchet MS]

I preferably bond through games. Board game, card game, tabletop RPG, video game, whatever. If we had a good time together (or had good times giving each other bad times), I find it a lot easier to open up.

 

I can still interact normally, but usually it halts at acquaintance.

[The Nyx Avatar]

I usually make friends through conversations. Whether we are talking about an interest we share (such as video games, drawing, anime, ect.), or something we don't like. I have a couple of real life friends. I had more before, but I moved, so for the most part, I had to start fresh.

[~British Soul~]

After I finished school, the majority of new friends I made were at locals because of a common interest; card games, video games, etc, and I usually hung out with them during my lunch breaks when I was at college because a few of the people on my course had much common ground with me.

[Arctic55]

I preferably bond through games. Board game, card game, tabletop RPG, video game, whatever.

You sound like Yugioh characters (or just a lot of movie/tv show characters in general) lol.  Bonding through a duel! Let's do this!

[~ P O L A R I S ~]

I'm a cagey JABRONI so my IRL friends at any given time have always been either one or none, but I reckon they're alright if you can keep 'em. 

[epicmemesbro]

After I finished school, the majority of new friends I made were at locals because of a common interest; card games, video games, etc, and I usually hung out with them during my lunch breaks when I was at college because a few of the people on my course had much common ground with me.

It would be nice to make friends this manner however the locals I know of that are near me at are at some hobby store who's clientele look like what I might turn out to be in a few years so I'd rather not befriend them. There are people that I know of in college that I share common interests with. However since they have friends of their own I feel like I may tamper with that.

I'm introverted by nature so this is hardly a loss or downside for me, although I wouldn't mind someone to talk to in real life every now and then.

[Susie]

Meh I dont seek out friends I just sit and wait for people to come and if they come then ill talk if not then well...I just sit around as a nobody in the background.

[MiracleGhost47]

I preferably bond through games. Board game, card game, tabletop RPG, video game, whatever. If we had a good time together (or had good times giving each other bad times), I find it a lot easier to open up.

 

I can still interact normally, but usually it halts at acquaintance.

I feel the same way!

[~British Soul~]

 

 

It would be nice to make friends in this manner however the locals I know of that are near me are at some hobby store whose clientele look like what I might turn out to be in a few years so I'd rather not befriend them. There are people that I know of in college that I share common interests with. However since they have friends of their own I feel like I may tamper with that.

I'm introverted by nature so this is hardly a loss or downside for me, although I wouldn't mind someone to talk to in real life every now and then.

I will admit it wasn't easy to befriend the guys at my locals as I didn't click with some of them at first, but it wasn't as bad as some people on my course. I'm also more of an introvert myself, but since I have asperger's that isn't much of a surprise.

[Snatch Steal]

There are no friends in Yugioh. Seto Kaiba should have taught us that by now.

 

My advice is the polar opposite of my mindset: Just start talking to people. Say "Hi, how are you", or make up an excuse, if you really wanna be smooth (although most people are fine with Hi, and if they really bite, then they're not good people anyway). Don't be afraid to talk to people; not everyone will like you, and some teens are just f***ing edgy for no good reason.

 

Of course, making friends is a whole different endeavor, since you have to really get to know the person in order to know what they're like. Spend time with people who come off to you as likable and spend less time with people who aren't so much. Basically, friendships don't usually happen overnight, and when they do, it's probably because that person either ① Wants to hit that, ② Is super lonely, or ③ is really talkative. 

 

TL;DR: Making friends is a trial and error endeavor that takes patience and mild stoicism regarding others.

 

wanna be friends?

[MiracleGhost47]

There are no friends in Yugioh. Seto Kaiba should have taught us that by now.

 

My advice is the polar opposite of my mindset: Just start talking to people. Say "Hi, how are you", or make up an excuse, if you really wanna be smooth (although most people are fine with Hi, and if they really bite, then they're not good people anyway). Don't be afraid to talk to people; not everyone will like you, and some teens are just f***ing edgy for no good reason.

 

Of course, making friends is a whole different endeavor, since you have to really get to know the person in order to know what they're like. Spend time with people who come off to you as likable and spend less time with people who aren't so much. Basically, friendships don't usually happen overnight, and when they do, it's probably because that person either ① Wants to hit that, ② Is super lonely, or ③ is really talkative. 

 

TL;DR: Making friends is a trial and error endeavor that takes patience and mild stoicism regarding others.

 

wanna be friends?

Lol. Why do some members reply to this as if I wanted tips? All I asked was their personal style of making friends. Whatever. I suppose it doesn't matter. After all, the tips do indirectly answer the question.

 

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