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How to get over being single? Should I stop being single?


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Although it isn't affecting me as bad as I thought it would, I feel like as I get older it will. Here's the thing, I don't think I want a girlfriend; there would be no use for one in my life. My hobbies and lifestyle will conflict with having one and will probably result in a bad breakup. Ugh, but something inside me feels like I'm not doing what's expected of me and that if I remain single for longer periods of time I will have failed. Arguably having a girlfriend may change me for the best, I don't want to change... So what do I do? How do I cope? I probably even know what I want, and that will only make things worse. Should I not remain single later on in life? Or is it best that I go my own way?

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Well for one posting about it on a children card game's forum won't help much.

 

I dunno about being expected to get a girlfriend, but are you absolutely sure you want to go through life and all its ups and downs without an equal partner to share it with? Sit down and imagine that and let the idea sink in your head and really think about it.

 

I'd like to think that's why people want to find the love of their life at least, rather than because they're expected to.

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Holy f*** dude.  Come off this already.  You're not the only one single out there.  And you're so damn young! 

 

For real...just wait.  A woman will come along who won't change, but instead will like you for who you are.  That's the whole point.  You're not there to fill a void.  You're there because you both feel mutual affection towards each other, affection that isn't just based on physical attributes alone.  

 

Or just make a f***ing Tinder already! 

 

Now coping's the easy part!  I cope with H-Doujins and ironically having a waifu.  But that doesn't mean I haven't put myself out there.  

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...You could also just focus on establishing a strong circle of friends and working towards developing good senses of self-worth/confidence/etc. Overall, you just need to learn to be happy with what you have instead of fixating on what you don't; and as great as relationships can be, they aren't the key to happy/meaningful lives.

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There is more in life than romantic love.

Focus on improving yourself, build a successful career, eat well, exercise, do things you enjoy, be a pleasant person to be with. 

 

Most important, be humble, accept that you make mistakes and be willing to change.

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the thing about people is that they're born with malicious intent. from birth we have thoughts of malice and selfishness ingrained into our very being, causing us to relish in the despair of others.

in short, if you really want to ruin your self esteem to get laid here and there, go ahead and do it, but if a girlfriend would interfere with your lifestyle to a point where you would end up getting hurt, stay away from them.

as far as coping is concerned, there's this thing online that brings many lonely men lots of pleasure in their spare time...

uh, seriously though, you may have to choose the shinier of two shits. maybe if it gets to a really bad point, find a hobby. outside of cards, i think.

or don't listen to me. i probably don't know what im talking about.

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I'm starting to think these "woe is me" and "asking personal advise on the worst place on the internet" topics should probably be relegated to someplace besides general.

no different that those other topics that end in people flaming, less and tbf.

 

Don't be a f***ing neckbeard or a pussy and just go out and talk to people. That is literally all you have to do.

I can't go out I'm too sick, interesting enough, my carelessness to shave has resulted in a failed attempt at a neckbeard.

 

the thing about people is that they're born with malicious intent. from birth we have thoughts of malice and selfishness ingrained into our very being, causing us to relish in the despair of others.

in short, if you really want to ruin your self esteem to get laid here and there, go ahead and do it, but if a girlfriend would interfere with your lifestyle to a point where you would end up getting hurt, stay away from them.

as far as coping is concerned, there's this thing online that brings many lonely men lots of pleasure in their spare time...

uh, seriously though, you may have to choose the shinier of two shits. maybe if it gets to a really bad point, find a hobby. outside of cards, i think.

or don't listen to me. i probably don't know what im talking about.

I'm not necessarily looking for advice from people who speak from experience, your advice is just as good as others. I kinda agree with you on the first part tho. One of the reasons I'd prefer yo avoid that type of drama.

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Just go ask a girl on a date or some sheet.

 

Don't be a funking neckbeard or a pussy and just go out and talk to people. That is literally all you have to do.

 

It's not quite that easy I feel.  Girls don't just lock-on to you once you're out in public and begin a mating ritual.  It's simple for you because you're very outgoing, but being socially awkward can yield bad results when socializing.

 

 

That being said, take Dae's advice.  Your chances of not being single if you don't go out and talk to people are literately 0.

 

Where some nice clothes, shave your neckbeard, cut your hair, wash your face, stand up straight, and go talk to people.  You do want to meet a girl who will like you for you, but you want to be the best version of you.  

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Just go ask a girl on a date or some s***.

 

 

 

It's not quite that easy I feel. Girls don't just lock-on to you once you're out in public and begin a mating ritual. It's simple for you because you're very outgoing, but being socially awkward can yield bad results when socializing.

 

 

That being said, take Dae's advice. Your chances of not being single if you don't go out and talk to people are literately 0.

 

Where some nice clothes, shave your neckbeard, cut your hair, wash your face, stand up straight, and go talk to people. You do want to meet a girl who will like you for you, but you want to be the best version of you.

I think getting swole might be an issue to. I am underweight and a bit short, what one may call a "manlet". That on its own is really unappealing to the eye of single women. I may need to do what I can to get bigger. Or I can just avoid taller women which I would do already. Getting big will also improve my overall health and esteem too.

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I think getting swole might be an issue to. I am underweight and a bit short, what one may call a "manlet". That on its own is really unappealing to the eye of single women. I may need to do what I can to get bigger. Or I can just avoid taller women which I would do already. Getting big will also improve my overall health and esteem too.

There is not a single reason that you shouldn't get big.  Start working out now.  Eat a sheet ton of healthy food every single day.  It only has benefits.

 

That being said, you don't need to avoid tall women just because you're short.  A lot of short girls will only go for really tall guys, it's all about preference.

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