Blake Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 The only rule in this discussion is to be serious. I don't feel this warrants a thread elsewhere, but it feels more important than a plain old status. It's not "spam", but it doesn't feel like it belongs in any given section. I guess it could go in general, but meh. [spoiler=Well, here goes nothing...] The truth is that Caeda is a trans. She called herself a girl on here for obvious reasons; She is one at heart. But after she did it, she regretted it. She told me, before we started dating, so that I wouldn't get into something I didn't want to. Knowing she was a girl at heart, I agreed nonetheless. She's wanted to tell people the truth about her... body, at the moment, for a while. Wanted to join in and do things. But she's been too shy. Can you blame her? She's in the wrong place, so to speak. I just know she wants to tell people, but is too scared and shy to. She even said she kinda hoped I HAD told people about her by accident before, so... I guess I'll do it for her, because she said she knows she'll never be able to, despite how much she wants to. She trusted me to do what I thought was right, so here it goes... She's not the first trans member of YCM to go as a girl, and surely not the last. It's not like they're lying. A body doesn't matter online... She is the same she's shown the whole time she's been here, the only difference is that her body isn't what it should be; which no one here has seen or heard anyways. It's why she left YCMN, why she never can bring herself to join in on Skype, play Cards Against Humanity, etc. Even now I'm sure she'll still be shy, but... I want to help her take the first step forward. I love her with all of my heart, and I don't want her to feel alone. And I know that, for all its flaws, YCM has fair share of trans members, and I can't name one that's received persecution because of it since I joined the site. I don't feel this really want this to be too big of a deal, but... I'm doing what I can for my wife. I love you with all of my heart, Aubrey. [/spoiler] Hopefully things can change for the better... provided YCM can handle her as well as others of the sort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chairman ali Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 al Qaeda Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goose Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Thanks for sharing. I think all members will agree that this shouldn't change anything except make her more comfortable here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bahamut - Envoy of the End Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Wow Would never have realised. Well, I hope this works out as you hope. I respect you and Caeda a lot and I think none the less of you. A bit more so for being brave and honest if anything. You two keep doing what you're doing. You're both awesome. :) Matt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.Rai Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 You two have one of the most honest relationships I've seen online, and my sentiments lie with Welche's. Thanks for sharing, and I wish you two a good future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toffee. Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 provided YCM can handle her as well as others of the sort.Black, you know I'm accepting of like, well, everything. So no worries here =D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodrigo Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Love is genderless. Something like this will never get in the way of your relationship. Keep going strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catterjune Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I really don't care what someone's actual gender is on YCM. I actually don't particularly care about anyone's gender unless I'm trying to sleep with them TBQH.Hoping this actually is a for serious topic and it doesn't suddenly turn into a dumb joke, or if it is a for serious topic no one takes it as a joke, and we don't see a hundred spam topic follow up, like it's a copy pasta or something.Sorry that Caeda feels she has to hide from YCM, but while I can't speak for everyone, I know I don't really care what her gender is or what she identifies as. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Like you said, she isn't the only trans member here, and for all I know, all of them (including her) are awesome people. There is really no reason to fear or judge. Be proud of who you are and don't let anyone put you down because of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I suggested a tab option precisely for this purpose, so you should look into the rules here again since they were recently updated. Aix implemented the idea and it would help you not need to explain this being serious but too much for a status update and all. Anyway, considering the length I've known, it doesn't really bother me at all. Actually, it didn't even bother me at all when she first told me. I also definitely would never discriminate against somebody who has the same exact situation that I do in regards to gender and body and such, but it is commendable that this was done. You should tell her that this was a very good first step because being able to admit it here will make her more comfortable with who she is the more she opens up. I used to be afraid to let anybody know, but I don't mind anymore. Of course, I wouldn't want a stranger who somehow found out yelling it for everyone to see, but I don't mind. I hope she can use this as a stepping stone to feel better about it, because I know she doesn't deserve any of the stupidity she has had to deal with, much less having the stress of not even being comfortable in her own body. Oh, in terms of my own input, as I, of course, posted very little of my own personal opinion rather than just stating the obvious, damn me. Weeeeell I've already told you I'll be here to support you forever and stuff with the "I love you"s everywhere back and forth. Certainly not in the same way as Black; his is romantic, but I do very much sincerely and indomitably love you no matter what ever happens between us, so don't forget I'll always be here if you ever need any support and nobody else is there, or if other people are there but I'm somehow a better alternative than somebody else. I mean, a lot of the forum people love you, but you know how I feel. You'll never be alone and nothing can change that, even in death. Oh, and of course, given this is not romantic to any extent, I am so not going to censor or anything how I feel no matter who says what. I have to be able to express how I feel as openly as I do for you as I do for another person in particular, and you even helped me very often when they couldn't, so I still have that to at least thank you for.... I don't know. I can go on for a very long while. This is a very, very short summary of how I would like to express my feelings on this, but a bit too much may make her uncomfortable or something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted April 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I suggested a tab option precisely for this purpose, so you should look into the rules here again since they were recently updated. Aix implemented the idea and it would help you not need to explain this being serious but too much for a status update and all. I did tag ^^; And thanks to everyone... She's just kinda talking to me on skype to avoid looking at the moment. She's scared even now, but... knowing I can let her come back to this makes me feel a lot better about everything. Thank you all, again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I did tag ^^; And thanks to everyone... She's just kinda talking to me on skype to avoid looking at the moment. She's scared even now, but... knowing I can let her come back to this makes me feel a lot better about everything. Thank you all, again. Does this mean I can finally start actually calling her Aubrey outside of private now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toffee. Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Out of curiosity, Black, and not to seem weird or anything, but did anyone on YCM ever tease Her for that? Can't imagine they would, though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted April 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 No, because she'd only told a few people... DL and Hina, for example. A couple others figured it out, but no one gave her a hard time. But she was still ashamed of her... body... and already shy and nervous. This isn't her only problem, but that's not for YCM. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodrigo Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I don't think I've ever seen anyone bash a transgender here on YCM. If anything, it only made them even more popular. Koko, Caeda and the others are all well known and liked as members. I must admit, sometimes Caeda would post somethings that I never imagined a girl posting, but I still didn't suspect anything. I guess I never gave it much thought anyway, because the gender online doesn't matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Airride Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I agree with most of the people who have already posted. If she thinks of herself as female, then that's what she is. Physical gender means very little in most instances. I would say more, but I'd probably screw it up. Just know that I'm okay with it and I'm glad that you could share this with us, to both let us know and to keep her at least a bit more comfortable. iprobablyscreweditupdidnti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Well, regardless of what the problem in particular is, it should be known that there are many people here who do care about her and some (albeit a bit less) who do so very much and sincerely, so she will always have somebody to go to, at least for less extreme situations. And, well, for the more touchy and emotional ones, there are still always going to be people here for her. Also, if anybody teased her for that, they would get a lot of people on them and such, so nobody will do anything bad. Or nobody can, rather, with all these nice people here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 But yeah, if she feels bad about it, we shouldn't be all peppy with her all at once. Just treat her how we've always been treating her and it's like it's not even significant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 But yeah, if she feels bad about it, we shouldn't be all peppy with her all at once. Just treat her how we've always been treating her and it's like it's not even significant. It isn't for the context of socializing on a forum and I will persist endlessly to anybody contrary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desu the Blue Nerd Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Okay. That's all I really need to say on the matter seeing as how there's legitimately no problem I have with this or difference in how I view her as a person. I still believe she's one of the coolest if not the coolest female on this site. P.S. I'm super good about still referring to people as a female despite having a male voice. Ex. Tuo and Kaka. So if you, Caeda, ever want to get a Cards Against Humanity game going with Skype I'm totally game for it. Still totally cool without skype as well. I just want to play Cards Against Humanity with you sometime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 As others have mentioned, I had no idea at all since I've always considered and treated Caeda as female for as long as I've known her (which has been about 4 years if I recall) granted that I barely know anyone on here to begin with. And Black, you have earned a lot of respect from us today. It takes a lot to do something like this for the person you love, and I respect that a lot. You two set an example for what love should look like and what love should be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kazooie Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 Um... Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for being supportive and stuff... I... didn't expect him to post this so soon, but... I told him whenever he thought was best. I let him take control over this... I knew that if I kept control, I would never really... Open up... I might come back and make more detailed responses to everyone who posted, but... Right now I'm still a bit jittery, so... Just an overall thank you for the positive response... ^^'' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goose Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 We're always here for you, sexeh bowser. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LordCowCowCowCowCowCowCowCow Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I don't know either of you so it feels odd to say anything. But coming from a stranger, I don't think you have anything to worry about. ^_^ You both seem like cool people and that's what matters, how one acts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted April 28, 2014 Report Share Posted April 28, 2014 I might come back and make more detailed responses to everyone who posted, but... Right now I'm still a bit jittery, so... Just an overall thank you for the positive response... ^^'' Ah yes, the jittery feeling. I know it all too well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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