Gabriel Maeso Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 My gf discoreved some things that I didn't wanted her to from my past... big argument, but ended up I wans't the only one with a secret, but her "secret" was somethign that was so out in the open that I would have to be dead to not see, we are driffting apart and she has gotten closer to a friend of hers, and he took the spot as her best friend, it was mine... and she doesn't know how she feels about him anymore, also she isn't interest on any kind of caress... and she thinks that I don't want her for love, but for sex, I want her for being with her. she is scared at me and doesn't seem to trust me anymore... evne tho I have her friend, he is the only one I can really ask for help, even tho we don't knoweach other... I have been holding cries my whole life, and won't be different this time, but this time I am holding cause she asked me to. I'm still going to visit her on her bday, I want to and I promissed her that too... but if things don't work out till then... then I'm back at being nothing and I would've lost the best girl ever and the best person I have ever met... if that ever happen... I will die, not by suicide, but I will lost enough will to live that even a cold might kill me, and my health is absolutly perfect... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Roxas Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 So I recently found that the girl I've been pining for is going to be studying abroad in the summer. I don't know many details, nor is it really my place to ask about them, but I'm worried. I want to hope that I might see her sometime before she leaves, but I want it to happen naturally, because I would think seeking her out would be rather stalkerish and could creepy her out. Ugh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spirit of DMG Posted March 16, 2013 Report Share Posted March 16, 2013 That... sounds like a problem, Gabe. Honestly, the best thing I can think to do is give her a little breathing room, avoid the subject of whatever you did that you didn't want her to know about (What was it, anyway, if you don't mind my asking? Sounds pretty serious...) That is, unless she directly questions you about it. Then avoiding the topic could be disastrous... And just keep talking to her. Show up at her bday as promised, and let her see you holding the tears back the way she asked you to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriel Maeso Posted March 16, 2013 Report Share Posted March 16, 2013 That... sounds like a problem, Gabe. Honestly, the best thing I can think to do is give her a little breathing room, avoid the subject of whatever you did that you didn't want her to know about (What was it, anyway, if you don't mind my asking? Sounds pretty serious...) That is, unless she directly questions you about it. Then avoiding the topic could be disastrous... And just keep talking to her. Show up at her bday as promised, and let her see you holding the tears back the way she asked you to. Thats what I decided to do, but anyway what it was is that, I once had a threesome with my ex and a friend, it was around an years b4 we started dating, I keep the sexual things I did form her because she thinks that doing some of them will make me remember my ex. what happened because of that was that she questionated me about it a lot then. Honestly I dunno what she saw on it, like my cousin said when I tlaked about this with her, it has gotten into the past, back there we were just friends and I had a diferent love life, and if I had been part of a 20 people orgy that still wouldn't and shouldn't be of her concern, I mean I am older and wiser now, and I don't want to know about something more than just her, so... I dunno how that got to her like that... anyway, a part of me agrees wiht my gf, the other with my cousin, and I'm not getting into the others selves of me on that. but I will go visit her and give her a nice gift too, and it's mostly sure that she will see myself holding back the tears, not as apunishment, not even close to that, just so she knows that I will do what I must for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapidfire Posted March 18, 2013 Report Share Posted March 18, 2013 So how is everyone? Anything good happen with anyone's love interest? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriel Maeso Posted March 18, 2013 Report Share Posted March 18, 2013 So how is everyone? Anything good happen with anyone's love interest? Good? well... I am trying to fix things up and make her stay with me. Even tho she says she thinks that it's unfair that we stay together she doesn't know if she prefferes me, a for sure relationship that I will work as hard as I can to make happen, or her friend, that doesn't want a thing with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapidfire Posted March 18, 2013 Report Share Posted March 18, 2013 Yeah like try to make it work but you want her happiness right? Think of it like this, you don't want her to stay because you want the relationship. If she or you aren't ever happy then the whole point of the relationship is gone. If she does leave you then let her be. If she misses you she'll come back to you. This kind of stuff happens so try to stay strong. It's a big world out there you never know what you'll miss if you dwell over her. See I'm a total hypocrite, I dwell for people I have feelings for. But when I do it's never to the point where I become blind. So if it does happen stay strong, and positive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriel Maeso Posted March 18, 2013 Report Share Posted March 18, 2013 Yeah like try to make it work but you want her happiness right? Think of it like this, you don't want her to stay because you want the relationship. If she or you aren't ever happy then the whole point of the relationship is gone. If she does leave you then let her be. If she misses you she'll come back to you. This kind of stuff happens so try to stay strong. It's a big world out there you never know what you'll miss if you dwell over her. See I'm a total hypocrite, I dwell for people I have feelings for. But when I do it's never to the point where I become blind. So if it does happen stay strong, and positive. We are happy... she is just... confused a bit... tha'ts all... but it's like we are hanging... by the looks of it, the only salvation would be when I go to visit her on her bday, but that's a month away... and till there we will have to pretend that everything is okay so our parents don't stop me from going or stop her from taking me there... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagnetBomb Posted March 26, 2013 Report Share Posted March 26, 2013 Usernam- theswl99 (subject to change No seriously (optional actually) Gender?: Male Are you in a relationship?: Nope Do you have love experience?: about as much as a narwhal in the desert. (Actually, a girlfriend for about a week. 7th grade, so...) Do you mind having your relationship status open to public?noppa Gangam style. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisa Kirisame-ze Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Why the inactivity? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 I don't know. What I do know is that Spike and I broke up this morning. It was a peaceful breakup thankfully and we are like brothers now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 I'm not as active as I used to be, of course. I also managed to have Merciful break, making him leave. I believe Remo (I'm not sure if it was him) left because of me, too. This club's lack of activity is involved with me, but Merciful breaking down in such a way was an obvious sign to receive aid from somebody professional. I'm sure it'll improve. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriel Maeso Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Well... I have been away from my own computer on the last few days due to some things... also had lots of problems on my relationship, but we are working things out. well I really dunno what to say about all those bad things, all I can say about love things other than that we are working out our problems is that in 2 weeks I'm visiting her and staying at her house, so... I dunno if it is a very good thing to say with all of this dark and down enviroment here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spirit of DMG Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Hmm... Not sure about that. Someone applied, and then... nothing. Nothing at all happened. I blame DL for that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagnetBomb Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Well, nothing because no one told me wether or not I'm in. Does this mean I'm officially single and ready to mingle? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DL Posted March 29, 2013 Author Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Yes, you are in. I've just been a bit away from YCM Welcome~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagnetBomb Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Yay,,I think I've been friend zoned by the girl I like. This always seem to happen to me... It sucks to be a nice person! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kōsuke Ueki Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Oh God... It's not that bad, but if you don't step up your game or take a risk to get yourself out of this mess you're in (It could be anything depending on the opportunity given), then you'll never go any further than being friends. Be a bit open with her and work from there and see of she feels for you. Hope this helps somehow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagnetBomb Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Yah, I'm a little scared though. Thanks for the advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kōsuke Ueki Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Trust me, I get scared about this kind of stuff too, but it used to be to the point of just staying quiet. Good thing is, I've overcome it for the most part. So, even if you're scared, just remember your reason for it and what good'll come out of it, and you'll do fine. Just be careful how you word certain things, cause things might turn sour fast if she misinterprets anything you say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aerion Brightflame Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Alternatively you can take my route and wait it out. Well, not entirely, I mean letting her know about your feelings and see how she reacts is something. The single best foundation for any relationship is a friendship. Since a relationship in my expierience is a friendship where you are more committed to each other. It also means that if things wind up going badly, you can go back to being friends, rather than never having contact with them again. It is probably a bad bit of advice, but it seemed to work for me. But if it's going to happen, it can't be forced, or else things fail. It's been ages since I've commented here hasn't it? Brief update on how things are going relationship wise for me then: Well, things have gotten a bit better and a bit worse. I'm just a bit annoyed since I didn't manage to get the number of a girl I like before the holiday so I can't talk to her for the next fortnight. Also, despite still being in love with my ex, I'm now sort of over her. Which is odd, and nice at the same time. I'm now accepting of the fact she not only doesn't like me, but doesn't like guys either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MagnetBomb Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 Okay. Thanks for all of your help.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kōsuke Ueki Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 I'm now accepting of the fact she not only doesn't like me, but doesn't like guys either. 0_0 Your ex is a lesbian? Never would have thought that would happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aerion Brightflame Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 0_0 Your ex is a lesbian? Never would have thought that would happen. Nah, she's Bi. It's just at the moment she's not into guys. I can relate, given I'm not into guys at the moment myself (And yes, I'm Bi as well). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eisei Proxy Posted March 29, 2013 Report Share Posted March 29, 2013 okay so i need to get in on this MAINLY, of course, due to DL's eccentric introduction! So hi, hello, hola, bonjour, konichiwa, bonjourno, other word for hello and HELLO!, did i say that yet? Username; It's there and all but hey, it's Eisei Proxy Gender: Male the last time i checked o-o Relationship status; I am surely single as the very last pringle Love experience?; Surpriiiiisingly yes... Do i mind public awareness?; No, make it publicly aware :D I hope to join soon as possibl- what the...? never mind...anyway, can i join?, can i can i? :3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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