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[DL]

Ah, MPD I remember when I used to think I had that. I still don't know whether I do or not. I remember back in the day I used to have 2, nicknamed Yuki, and Suzuki Yuki was the sadistic one with a bit of a vengeful and spiteful side. Suzuki was a 15-year old girl pretty much, who was very kind and a bit hyper, though she always kept her sadness hidden In the end I believe Yuki was just the darkness in me, my bad side.....Suzuki.................I don't really know x.x haha maybe Suzuki is still in me somewhere, but she's receded, without a need of actually BEING there, since I AM a happier person now.

[Marisa Kirisame-ze]

I think everyone's eager to diagnose themselves with things to get rid of any essence of ordinary.

 

Why it's a thing, I don't know, but it's shameful at best because it gives those who truly have mental illnesses a bad name.

 

And I'm one with a curiosity, love, and absurd passion for mental illness, but I never believe one's self diagnosis until a few factors are met.

 

And I urge you all to do the same, so that this self diagnosis trend can stop and people can take mental illness more seriously instead of making it some game to rid themselves of being "normal". Reality check, you all truly don't want mental illnesses, so don't try so hard to give yourselves one.

[Kōsuke Ueki]

[quote name="Marisa Kirisame-ze" post="6146070" timestamp="1361155209"]I think everyone's eager to diagnose themselves with things to get rid of any essence of ordinary. Why it's a thing, I don't know, but it's shameful at best because it gives those who truly have mental illnesses a bad name. And I'm one with a curiosity, love, and absurd passion for mental illness, but I never believe one's self diagnosis until a few factors are met. And I urge you all to do the same, so that this self diagnosis trend can stop and people can take mental illness more seriously instead of making it some game to rid themselves of being "normal". Reality check, you all truly don't want mental illnesses, so don't try so hard to give yourselves one.[/quote] If you knew me in real life, you would actually believe what I have explained about myself. But I think it's just something that came with my Aspergers. I'm not sure.

[Marisa Kirisame-ze]

Nah, I'm not here to attack anyone or be cynical and skeptic. I'm just putting my thoughts out there.

 

Don't feel like you all have to prove anything to me because you really don't.

 

But I've come across too much self diagnosis to really respect it anymore, but I won't lash out over my opinions.

[Mr.WHAM]

I'm the motherflipping king of games. That being said. How have you all been with your dating issues?

[Tourmaline]

I think everyone's eager to diagnose themselves with things to get rid of any essence of ordinary.

Why it's a thing, I don't know, but it's shameful at best because it gives those who truly have mental illnesses a bad name.

And I'm one with a curiosity, love, and absurd passion for mental illness, but I never believe one's self diagnosis until a few factors are met.

And I urge you all to do the same, so that this self diagnosis trend can stop and people can take mental illness more seriously instead of making it some game to rid themselves of being "normal". Reality check, you all truly don't want mental illnesses, so don't try so hard to give yourselves one.

I remember you being the first one to tell me I might be depressed. It must have been sincere.

I wonder who really has a mental illness. It's a notable per cent of people overall, so I may have met a few already.

[Rapidfire]

Well I'm not fully up to date on the topic but from the recent posts people seem to be talking about mental illnesses. Like that's a serious topic, and I don't think that people who "think" they have an illness have any idea on what it really is. For example my uncle has a mental illness, and he's paralyzed in some parts of his body and he never ever took pity in it. He's one of the most radiant people I know. Even tho he is challenged he never said anything about it, fact I remember when I was little I asked him what's it like to have never walked and he said "it's MAGNIFICENT everyone always pushes you around, and never have I ever lost at a good game of chess, and I never miss any soccer or tennis matches!" Really guys stop being so primitive. You can't blame everything on illnesses. If your born with one accept it, and live with it. It's not that bad, no matter what the challenge learn to live with it. Suck it up.

[Marisa Kirisame-ze]

I remember you being the first one to tell me I might be depressed. It must have been sincere.

I wonder who really has a mental illness. It's a notable per cent of people overall, so I may have met a few already.

 

Depression is a completely different story. I'd rather help out someone who I think is depressed instead of asking them to go see a doctor. But when that depression leads to suicidal tendencies, then it's completely different too. So mental illness comes in large amount of variations and acting on them always depends on what variation it's in.

 

Anyways,

 

 

How have you all been with your dating issues?

 

Haven't yet told the girl I like that I like her, though I think I'll try to hint at a few things over the course of this week. I'm enjoying myself a lot though, it's nice to like someone as extraordinary as her. Can't say I have much of a problem.

[Tourmaline]

I'm not really sure if I remember well myself, but do you remember me having any sort of suicidal tendencies? I know there was one night, but I never really mentioned it and I don't think we spoke around that time, so if you remember anything of the sort from talking to me, please tell me.

[Kazooie]

As someone who went the the pain of actually developing an alternate personality, I'm really compelled to think most of you don't truly have one. This isn't something you talk about having willy-nilly. It HURTS. The majority of the time, they only develop after abuse, sexual or physical, or really extreme stress.

 

I'm not saying that some of you don't. Merciful's case sounds like it could be legitimate, considering the circumstances he's been through.

 

It causes memory lapses. Bad ones. There are whole periods of times I can't remember. I'm not saying you're all faking, but if any of you ARE, I suggest you reconsider. This isn't something you want to be burdened with. It isn't fun, no matter how people like Jake the Sage and Ice, well Ice USED to, make it look.

[Marisa Kirisame-ze]

I'm not really sure if I remember well myself, but do you remember me having any sort of suicidal tendencies? I know there was one night, but I never really mentioned it and I don't think we spoke around that time, so if you remember anything of the sort from talking to me, please tell me.

 

Your lack of care for life was a sign.

[Tourmaline]

I remember that Summer especially. I didn't really care about anything at all. I've been that way since I finished elementary school. It peaked in the eighth grade and the eleventh. Now that I think of it, coming out was one of the best or worst things that ever happened to me, but I can't decide which. It taught me a lot about people I thought I loved wholly but crushed everything else under dozens of tonnes. Subjectively, at least.

[Kōsuke Ueki]

Well I've been under stress for years Iris, so I also have memory lapses, but they usually only happen when I lose focus of whatever objective I was in the process of completing.
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BTW Rapid, you can't tell people with mental problems to suck it up. We CAN'T sometimes and living with it is always a struggle. I know. I've tried and i failed miserably as a result. Although I respect you, telling people to suck it up makes you out to be a jerk, no offense. As a man with Autism, I always have people breathing down my f**king neck because of how I act and what I say to people. As far as I'm aware, you don't have any PERSONAL experience with this, so your opinion on this is flawed.

[Mr.WHAM]

Haven't yet told the girl I like that I like her, though I think I'll try to hint at a few things over the course of this week. I'm enjoying myself a lot though, it's nice to like someone as extraordinary as her. Can't say I have much of a problem.

 

Don't hint, just do it. It reminds me of the whole thing I saw on facebook about this guy named steve getting friendzoned to new levels, when he gave the girl he "loved" silver and gold plated roses. It was upsetting to see. If you want to drop hints fine, but when the time comes, before you get in too deep, let her know what you want.

As far as mental issues, I have no words. 

 

As far as the whole dating club topic, I meant to tell you all last time this, then you pointed out to me that I sound like an attention whore. I found this revelation to be useful, but that's personal and I should stay focused. 

The Story

 

So there was this girl that I fell in love with & she with me. For 6 months we spent time together and thought the world of each other, BUT we did not date, though we might as well have been. Now after a bad falling out between her, a few friends of ours, and myself, everything was shattered and about 6 months worth of emotions went down the shitter. Like they held absolutely no value on anyone's end and I was a bit upset about it I felt betrayed, misunderstood and lonely. I dealt with it fine however. Let's fast forward to about a week or 2 ago when I was wandering the internet one night. I ended up on this girls blog and being the caring person I am, I decided to read it, since I had no other form of contact with her (I got blocked on FB and I don't bother with calling/texting from that point) and check out and see that she was fine. I know that she smoetimes has trouble dealing and I just wish people well. Now after a few minutes of reading, I stumble across an excerpt or 2 about me. I read these and get utterly confounded. It seems as though she did not understand or realize why I did not ask her out. She thought I was afraid to commit to her, which I can admit made me a little nervous but it was a trivial nervousness. So as I read this I began to feel a need to amend these misunderstandings and slowly repair our friendship, however I know her boyfriend and I won't be getting along and I know she will will tell him if I even bother to say hello to her. So I don't. I keep my distance and let things be, with unspoken conflicts between everyone involved, directly or indirectly. So now I'm wondering if I should or not and I want your opinions on the situation. Feel free to ask me any questions about it.

[Kōsuke Ueki]

Dude, you gotta make things right. Even if you are risking losing contact for good, then that's the chance you'll have to take. You want to fix this, you gotta act before it's too late and your relationship is severed forever. Do what you think is right and think about what your heart wants. Hope this helps. ;)

[Merci]

Mr. Wham, baka. [b]Make things right. Clear everything up. Doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend or not. Just tell her. If there's one thing I hate more than the Inheritance book, [i]it's misunderstandings!!![/b][/i] And one thing I hate more than that is a girl who lies about getting raped. But that's unrelated.

 

...anyway. I talked with my girlfriend and she decided to choose the other guy after some encouragement from me. But I also told her that if he leaves her, then she can always come back to me. I have no plans to find another girl anyway, the last one left me emotionally exhausted. I don't view it as breaking up, not yet. Just...voluntary cheating? Anyway, I'm perfectly okay with it.

 

Meanwhile, my friend (remember? From Valentine's day?) talked to me today and told me about how his crush was now acting awkward around him, trying to avoid his questions, and wasn't acting the same as always even though he was. There might be multiple reasons for this, one of them being she had never seriously thought of him as a friend in the first place, and another being that she's scared he's just playing around (in middle school, he kinda attracted a lot of crushes from the girls due to his friendliness and playfulness to every living thing, but never recuperated any of them). He's a childish guy. Popular and sporty, but finds it difficult to take anything very seriously. I'm guessing that has to do with her hesitation and attitude. In the end, I suggested that he gave her some space and wait for her to say something - if she didn't by the end of the semester, he would have to confront her directly about her feelings.

 

Nothing too serious, and I'm sure everything'll turn out okay for him. Just wanted to know what you guys think about it.

[DL]

He's the guy, he should be able to say something first.....but in case he can't....I wonder if she will say something.

 

Oh and I actually did not enjoy Suzuki OR Yuki :T Some people use them as ways to give excuses to things they did, but just wait till someone actually WANTS to take responsability for one >.> not gonna happen.

[Mr.WHAM]

Dude, you gotta make things right. Even if you are risking losing contact for good, then that's the chance you'll have to take. You want to fix this, you gotta act before it's too late and your relationship is severed forever. Do what you think is right and think about what your heart wants. Hope this helps. ;)

 

 

Mr. Wham, baka. Make things right. Clear everything up. Doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend or not. Just tell her. If there's one thing I hate more than the Twilight series, it's misunderstandings!!! And one thing I hate more than that is a girl who lies about getting raped. But that's unrelated.

 

...anyway. I talked with my girlfriend and she decided to choose the other guy after some encouragement from me. But I also told her that if he leaves her, then she can always come back to me. I have no plans to find another girl anyway, the last one left me emotionally exhausted. I don't view it as breaking up, not yet. Just...voluntary cheating? Anyway, I'm perfectly okay with it.

 

Meanwhile, my friend (remember? From Valentine's day?) talked to me today and told me about how his crush was now acting awkward around him, trying to avoid his questions, and wasn't acting the same as always even though he was. There might be multiple reasons for this, one of them being she had never seriously thought of him as a friend in the first place, and another being that she's scared he's just playing around (in middle school, he kinda attracted a lot of crushes from the girls due to his friendliness and playfulness to every living thing, but never recuperated any of them). He's a childish guy. Popular and sporty, but finds it difficult to take anything very seriously. I'm guessing that has to do with her hesitation and attitude. In the end, I suggested that he gave her some space and wait for her to say something - if she didn't by the end of the semester, he would have to confront her directly about her feelings.

 

Nothing too serious, and I'm sure everything'll turn out okay for him. Just wanted to know what you guys think about it.

I honestly agree with you two...it's the resulting drama that is the deterrent. That and the simple fact that I am not talking to her because part of this is her fault, mine and a lot f his. And I was friends with him. My brain tells me to move on, the emotion that I'm feeling is petty. Especially since "They're not going to last" but my heart, well that's numbing and just doesn't give two f**ks.  I should point out that I've never gotten back with an ex of mine or someone who I considered one, despite the feelings involved. 
 

I thank you for listening to me vent my stresses and contributing your opinions.

 

 

AS FOR YOU IDIOT: You're being way. Too. Agreeable/Passive/Accepting of this. And then I remembered your situation and completely understood why you are. When relationships end, they leave people abandoned, be it now, later, emotionally, mentally, or whatever.
As for your friend his solution is simple. Referencing the past gf not your current one. He has to make her feel secure in his feelings for her in a logical manner that also appeals to her emotions. It's simple but it could be challenging.

 

 

 

Hayate you got me thinking of a topic with that post.

In your personal opinions and experiences, who makes the first move most often, why and what do you think contributes to the exception & normalcy?

[Tourmaline]

In my experience, there are no outliers and only one definite possibility for all situations, regardless of if one believes it is subjective or objective. Being that DL is the stud among studs, sexual orientation and pride both lose relevance and he becomes the only entity anybody can desire. DL understands this and, to go along with his sexual and romantic prowess, does not search for a mate but allows the mates to find him. You see, DL is only willing to mate with those learned and wise enough to realize there is no such thing as love unless such is for DL, and because he understands this while being open-minded enough to let other people live in the bliss of his ignorance, he need not search while the lot of you come here to receive aid with your romantic problems. There is a reason he made this club. He made it to aid those in pain (regardless of their ignorance to the truth) and to make it easier for those having trouble coming out to him, so that they can feel and be closer to their objective without having to search for him. He made this club so that those who understand the truth but are too weak-minded to undertake such a task can get closer to him with less effort.

For all this, I commend you, DL. Not only have you improved the quality of life of those living psychologically atavistic lifestyles, but you have made it easier for the enlightened ones to reach their holy destination; your sacred arms. That is a place even I aspire to attain, someday....

[Nathanael D. Striker]

In my experience, there are no outliers and only one definite possibility for all situations, regardless of if one believes it is subjective or objective. Being that DL is the stud among studs, sexual orientation and pride both lose relevance and he becomes the only entity anybody can desire. DL understands this and, to go along with his sexual and romantic prowess, does not search for a mate but allows the mates to find him. You see, DL is only willing to mate with those learned and wise enough to realize there is no such thing as love unless such is for DL, and because he understands this while being open-minded enough to let other people live in the bliss of his ignorance, he need not search while the lot of you come here to receive aid with your romantic problems. There is a reason he made this club. He made it to aid those in pain (regardless of their ignorance to the truth) and to make it easier for those having trouble coming out to him, so that they can feel and be closer to their objective without having to search for him. He made this club so that those who understand the truth but are too weak-minded to undertake such a task can get closer to him with less effort.

For all this, I commend you, DL. Not only have you improved the quality of life of those living psychologically atavistic lifestyles, but you have made it easier for the enlightened ones to reach their holy destination; your sacred arms. That is a place even I aspire to attain, someday....

 

Okay, this was amusing. Thanks for making my morning Alice.

 

@Wham: Well, the guys are traditionally supposed to go for it. The only exception that I know of if it is a Sadie Hawkins Dance, but there may be more.

[DL]

In my experience, there are no outliers and only one definite possibility for all situations, regardless of if one believes it is subjective or objective. Being that DL is the stud among studs, sexual orientation and pride both lose relevance and he becomes the only entity anybody can desire. DL understands this and, to go along with his sexual and romantic prowess, does not search for a mate but allows the mates to find him. You see, DL is only willing to mate with those learned and wise enough to realize there is no such thing as love unless such is for DL, and because he understands this while being open-minded enough to let other people live in the bliss of his ignorance, he need not search while the lot of you come here to receive aid with your romantic problems. There is a reason he made this club. He made it to aid those in pain (regardless of their ignorance to the truth) and to make it easier for those having trouble coming out to him, so that they can feel and be closer to their objective without having to search for him. He made this club so that those who understand the truth but are too weak-minded to undertake such a task can get closer to him with less effort.

For all this, I commend you, DL. Not only have you improved the quality of life of those living psychologically atavistic lifestyles, but you have made it easier for the enlightened ones to reach their holy destination; your sacred arms. That is a place even I aspire to attain, someday....

Ahahaha

Oh god, Hina

 

You are too much <3 *hugs*


How do you even come up with this stuff? xD

[Merci]

@Mr.WHAM: Ah, I appreciate the compliment, I think. Anyway, as for my friend, I'll keep that in mind.

 

As for the topic, I'm not really sure what to say. Most of the time, the girl makes the first move (although I kinda lure them into it without them knowing), and I just react. Whenever I make the first move, I always screw up. I once had this friend at school who I developed a crush on after my first crush moved schools, and decided to approach her. She steeled up instantly and pushed me away, removing me from her contacts, and avoided me whenever possible. A bit of an overreaction, but sometimes I think I gave up on her too fast...maybe if I had pushed harder, I might've been able to win her over? I don't know. And that look she gave me whenever I was around, that look that look that look, a look of disgust, it killed me every time. It took me a while to get over her, but in the meantime I got my first girlfriend. Anyway, I apologized to her last year at prom night, and our relations have been restored...somewhat. We're still not back to friends (and I doubt we ever will be) but at she can tolerate my presence now.

 

Wait, I'm off-topic now. All I'm trying to say is that I screw up every time I make the first move. I probably screwed up my relationship with my first girlfriend by being so hasty yet ignorant, and I put off another girl who used to have a crush on me.

 

Luring other people in and reacting is much easier, IMO.

[Spirit of DMG]

Yeah. I know about stress. In fact, I think that's why Donovyn even came to me. I don't know exactly when, but when I was six I started feeling like someone else was in my head. There were periods when I would black out and then be told I had picked fights I didn't particularly remember. It just seemed kinda hazy if I did...

I was picked on a lot as a kid... I didn't ever wanna talk about it, just pretend that things were okay. I guess I had hoped that if I acted like nothing had happened then they'd stop. Like somehow if I lived the lie long enough it'd stop being a lie. Then in fifth grade I met someone I really couldn't stand...

 

That's when I started showing up more. I had been assigned, I guess, to serve as an alternate. Our case is a bit different from traditional MPD, but the causes are similar. Since he was constantly being harassed, but refused to do anything about it, I I started taking over his body. At first it was easy because he barely even noticed I was there. As he got older and became more aware, it became harder for me to anything without his consent. He learned to control the seals that had been put in place and regulate me. Whether these are genuine seals that were placed when I arrived or if they're mental seals his mind unconsciously created, I don't know. However, the later would make more sense if he can control them.

 

I don't particularly care, because I've figured out a way to be aware of what's going on when I'm not the one in control. It also helps me to snap myself back into my own head when I don't like what's going on. It does hurt, however, to do an instant snap-to rather than a gradual transition, but there you have it. Whether you believe me or not, that's the case.

[Rapidfire]

I got my network back! Finally...

 

So guys, what was your first childhood crush like? And what made you like them? 

 

I remember my first childhood crush was a boy 2 times shorter then me. He was and still is annoying, and he would always tease me. I guess I liked him because he would always tease me. I'm not really sure anymore. I was a weird child. Haha! 

[Aerion Brightflame]

My first crush was someone I didn't really know, who I went out with for like a week. When things ended mutually after a massive arguement between us, she went insane (Well insane is the wrong word, but I don't know the exact condition or else I would that. Sorry if I seem insensitive.) She now spends her time stalking me.

 

I don't even know what I liked her for, I guess I just thought she was nice, and back then I'd had no interaction with girls really.