Rapidfire Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 Who said I want it to be now. I'll fall, and I'll get back up. Not a big deal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mugendramon Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 Sure I can. I can say 'people tend to break up much more often than stay happily ever after', can't I? Break up=Get rejected? I mean, being in love doesn't mean it will last. Love is ephemeral like everything else. Best case scenario, happily ever after. Worst case scenario, that love fades into oblivion, for your significant other before yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miror B Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 Sure I can. I can say 'people tend to break up much more often than stay happily ever after', can't I? Well yea because happily ever after doesn't exist ._; But you need to say stuff you can back up. You can't just go saying "love sucks and always ends in disaster" unless you can back that up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merci Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 I never said that. I just say love [i]tends[/i] to be that way. Many people fall and break, or get back up and find new ones, and that's the way they are. I can understand that. Of course, right now I have a girlfriend, and I can totally see our future together and so can she. The future, the wedding, names of any potential children, everything. Right now I believe in our happily ever after and I'm counting on her to believe it forever too. I'm going to keep striving for that, so I can proudly live my life at this absolute success. Many people fall and break, or get back up and find new ones, and that's the way they are. But I like defying tradition, so I hope my girlfriend will help take us to that cliche future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agro Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 You know what REALLY helps a relationship work? Being down in the dumps about relationships and talking about how they fail a lot more than they work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 You guys are using love and in love interchangably. Don't do that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agro Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 Welcome to "Agro Draws a Love Graph" Well I don't actually want to take the time to draw one, so I'm gonna explain it... much less time consuming. What Black is talking about is the idea of being "in love", which is what people refer to when talking about that initial burst of good feelings you feel towards a person that you find entertaining or attractive. Sad to say that this kind of love fizzles out and can leave a relationship feeling empty. This, of course, would then be the cause of most breakups. If you were to imagine how this would look in line graph form, think of the y-axis as love, and x-axis as time. In other words, showing love over time, this is the one that will jump up realy high at the start, but then fall back down very shortly. There is however, a second line. This one starts out very slow, and low for that matter. This line is the "love" Black is referring to; a slow growing feeling for another human being that exponentially grows until it far exceeds the maximum height that the "in love" line reached. In other words, people these days get to caught up in the passionate "in love" that fizzles out and makes people think they're wrong and ends most relationships fast. The one to watch, of course, is the other line, which grows larger and larger the more you get to know the person. This has been "Agro DrawsExplains a Love Graph". (this stuff has actually been researched by psychologists and this is what they found... so yeah, that's cool) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 Agro covered most of it, but I wanna add just a little something: True Love is desire to take care of, be with, and give to someone. It's... Commitment from the very depths of who you are, as opposed to passionate romance. "In love" will wave on the proverbial chart. You will fall in and out of love with someone you love over the years with them. But you always love them, truly, if you're doing it right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agro Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 You love them as family. With a few notable differences; one of which I can't get into on a children's card game forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merci Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 That's...interesting, I never thought of it that way. And why not? Is it forbidden to talk about incest and sex in a club full of mature people? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTFauKorean Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 You'll probably be rejected, or thrown away. No offense, but that's how love tends to work. Dude what? I think you're just in lack of a better word. "infatuation" "Love" is probably number one replacement word in the history of replacement words for the word infatuation. what are you all like 16,17,18 tops? Seriously man no sugar coat, all the guy's are romeos who suddenly goes from "Rosaline's ultra hot," to suddenly "Juliet is hotter though" and all the Juliets who fall for the romeo are just as inexperienced and immature as Romeos the, young love and angst leads to some stupid ass shit like a double suicide. or in case of modern day scenario extreme depression and more angst The saying have to be reworded. "Love makes you do stupid things." "Infatuation makes you do stupid things, love makes you do things you can't explain." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agro Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 That's...interesting, I never thought of it that way. And why not? Is it forbidden to talk about incest and sex in a club full of mature people? > YCM > Mature People We're not supposed to talk about incest and sex on a children's card games forum. It's in bad taste. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aerion Brightflame Posted February 1, 2013 Report Share Posted February 1, 2013 Wow. People managed to perfectly sum up my opinions on most of this before I got a chance to. It's true that many, if not most relationships will fail at some point, that's no reason not to try. Life is a collection of experiences good and bad, without experiencing both then you haven't lived. And that applies for Love as well. Love is probably the greatest risk that most will deal with in life. You are sharing part of yourself with them, and that leaves you open for the great joys, and the great pains. Being bitter about the bad parts of love is the worst thing you can do, it reflects on yourself, and you are closing a great part of life away from you. I think during one of my random conversations with m ex where we just say meaningful opinions about life to each other where I resort to using Lord of the Rings quotes she summed it up brilliantly: Love and pain are forever intertwined. To protect yourself from one, is to forever forsake the other. Technically you can use love instead of infatuation for a lot of stuff. I mean the Greeks had 4 different kinds of love of varying values. Material Love, the love for friends, Eros (Sexual love), and the unconditional love for family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kazooie Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 If you all think "love" is an inherently bad thing, you have a lot of growing up to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cute Rotten Yoshika Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 nihilism is a pretty gross thought process really. despite what you would think, humanity is an inherently social species. weve made it this far because we have feelings like love and friendship to bring us together and make us better together than we would be separately. so to say those things are useless or bad is literally denying your own existence. you wouldnt be here if people didnt love each other. it doesnt matter if "my parents are divorced and hate each other" or whatever youre gonna pull to this, person reading this who thinks im wrong. go back further. you cant get from you all the way back to the beginning of humanity without finding love somewhere. love is the greatest gift you can give. its literally the reason for our existence, on one level. dont deny its importance to be cool or edgy or whatever you think it does for you. youre wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 Ew. Ew. Thinking other people can have inherently wrong viewpoints. Oh god. No. Love isn't bad. I personally don't genuinely express it much in reality, though. I'm cool and edgy and don't know how to love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lust the Lascivious Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 oh l know how to love. my exs can tell you that if l spoke to them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Master of Sabers Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 I'm a rather shy person who enjoys solitude at times. And yet my two friends say they've never had a better friend. How does this work again? Anyway. I'm 20, and I've never been in a relationship before. I'm the kind of person everyone likes, but no one remembers. I'm not very good at dealing with large groups of people, I prefer smaller groups to face to face interactions. I count myself as a very mature person, and I have very good morals. I just have self confidence issues, really. But there is a girl in my calc2 class who I'm crushing on, and whom I tutor actually. We'll see how things go... Anyway. Yeah. That's my situation in a nutshell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spirit of DMG Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 I've had a few relationships. Only one of them lasted for any real length of time... and then in the aftermath, I ended up in a spiraling depression. So full of pain, anguish, and the need to eat excessive amounts of ice cream. Yeah, that about sums it up.Don't get me wrong, I still love the girl, and if you try to do anything to hurt her in any shape or form, I will hunt you down with a rusty spoon and cut out your spleen. But, I'm starting to think that it's hardly worth my time to get myself into a relationship with any human. Thus far, it's only gotten me right back where I started, with the addition, as mentioned before, of the desire to buy out Wally World's Ice Cream stock and consume oll of it in a single night. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agro Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 I've had a few relationships. Only one of them lasted for any real length of time... and then in the aftermath, I ended up in a spiraling depression. So full of pain, anguish, and the need to eat excessive amounts of ice cream. Yeah, that about sums it up.Don't get me wrong, I still love the girl, and if you try to do anything to hurt her in any shape or form, I will hunt you down with a rusty spoon and cut out your spleen. But, I'm starting to think that it's hardly worth my time to get myself into a relationship with any human. Thus far, it's only gotten me right back where I started, with the addition, as mentioned before, of the desire to buy out Wally World's Ice Cream stock and consume oll of it in a single night. Just spend time with some girls you don't hate. Slowly decide whether you want to date any of them. The best relationships evolve naturally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisa Kirisame-ze Posted February 2, 2013 Report Share Posted February 2, 2013 Found this piece of writing, it's relevant to me, and most of you could probably relate too: "I've developed this phobia - and not the kind you'd call 'irrational' but the kind where I'll hear your voice when you say "hello" and will have lost the ability to decipher how you're feeling. Or that your taste in music will change to a different melody that I can no longer listen to. Or the next time I reach out to hug you, I may not be given enough time to wrap my arms around you completely, to memorize the shape of your hips. I haven't been able to confess this to even those I trust the most, because I'm far too preoccupied gripping onto the possibility that this is all indeed irrational." It has a lot to do with what you all were talking about before - love dying out. And my god, when love goes, it sure as hell goes. And it's scary to not want that to happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Posted February 3, 2013 Report Share Posted February 3, 2013 Gender?: Male. Are you in a relationship?: Not currently. Do you have love experience?: Oui. Do you mind having your relationship status open to public?: I do not. This should be fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapidfire Posted February 3, 2013 Report Share Posted February 3, 2013 Yeah like Marisa said when love dies, it just does. I don't really think any of us can stop that from happening. We can try to hold on to the thoughts of it, but at one point you just have to let it fade. It comes and it goes, so why not embrace that and just go with it. Yeah it's true love never lasts but it was fun wile it lasted. Right? So no need to dwell and think it was someones fault it slipped away. It's just the course it takes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kazooie Posted February 3, 2013 Report Share Posted February 3, 2013 Yeah like Marisa said when love dies, it just does. I don't really think any of us can stop that from happening. We can try to hold on to the thoughts of it, but at one point you just have to let it fade. It comes and it goes, so why not embrace that and just go with it. Yeah it's true love never lasts but it was fun wile it lasted. Right? So no need to dwell and think it was someones fault it slipped away. It's just the course it takes. If it fades it wasn't true love to begin with. Merely infatuation or something similar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisa Kirisame-ze Posted February 3, 2013 Report Share Posted February 3, 2013 If it fades it wasn't true love to begin with. Merely infatuation or something similar. That's a thought, but not really true. There's a million other reasons why love could die out. Love is too complicated to put on a spectrum of two things - true love and not true love. I don't believe in that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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