~YCM's Dating Club~ (Join, because we're cool ;D)

[Steel Crimson]

[quote name='Hayate Ayasaki~' timestamp='1357570630' post='6114101']
If you're looking for good anime along those lines, Steel
Gurren Laggan is your best bet
Considering the anime you know.
It's the most manly anime ever
:3
And actually
Sleeping less is bad, cuz ya look less pretty xD
[/quote]

I've heard of that one around before, I'll have to take a look at it then! If I needed to worry about lack of sleep making me ugly I would be asleep now, also I'm trying to get friends here hence joining clubs, am I supposed to like ask if I can add someone before I add them? That is what I have been doing, I'd like to be friends with you, you doing anything fun /not fun today?

[Cute Rotten Yoshika]

[quote name='Hayate Ayasaki~' timestamp='1357570630' post='6114101']
If you're looking for good anime along those lines, Steel

Gurren Laggan is your best bet

Considering the anime you know.

It's the most manly anime ever

:3






And actually

Sleeping less is bad, cuz ya look less pretty xD
[/quote]

i actually look worse cuz ive been sleeping too much lately. it messes up my hair unu

[Nathanael D. Striker]

Speaking of sleep, I have to get used to waking up at 7am again since I've been waking up at 9am throughout Winter Break. X___X

[Steel Crimson]

[quote name='clairedestroyer' timestamp='1357571150' post='6114106']
i actually look worse cuz ive been sleeping too much lately. it messes up my hair unu
[/quote]
Oh I know what you mean, sometimes I feel even worse than I do if I've not had much sleep because you just want to keep on sleeping, hello and nice to meet you by the way, I'm Steel

[Mugendramon]

Okay okay okay. What the hell did I say about general discussion? No, not even general discussion. You guys are talking Animes to watch, not even general discussion. There are several clubs for that, including another one which Thales owns.

Thales get a hang on your goddamn club or I will. Last call.

[Tourmaline]

[quote name='Mugendramon' timestamp='1357571687' post='6114112']
Okay okay okay. What the hell did I say about general discussion? No, not even general discussion. You guys are talking Animes to watch, not even general discussion. There are several clubs for that, including another one which Thales owns.

Thales get a hang on your goddamn club or I will. Last call.
[/quote]

While I won't mention that "general" is [i]purely[/i] and so subjective you shouldn't even mention it, the first posts states discussion of anime and manga with romance; Kirito and Asuna or Simon and Nia. Please reread the first post so you can actually be a bit pedantic here.

Otherwise, I've been noticing several short posts....
The lot of you are fortunate I can't be on as much anymore.

[Steel Crimson]

[quote name='Hina~' timestamp='1357573953' post='6114124']
While I won't mention that "general" is [i]purely[/i] and so subjective you shouldn't even mention it, the first posts states discussion of anime and manga with romance; Kirito and Asuna or Simon and Nia. Please reread the first post so you can actually be a bit pedantic here.

Otherwise, I've been noticing several short posts....
The lot of you are fortunate I can't be on as much anymore.
[/quote]

As I do understand that we need to keep to some sort of topic, it is hard to maintain a conversation when there is a wait between posts, I also feel that it is rude to essentially 'butt' into a conversation between a member and another member without first warning. I have however been talking about anime although I do not read manga, I camer here to make friends and generally have fun, if that is not supposed to be done here I will just leave because that is what I am looking for.

Sorry, Steel out

[Mugendramon]

[quote name='Hina~' timestamp='1357573953' post='6114124']
While I won't mention that "general" is [i]purely[/i] and so subjective you shouldn't even mention it, the first posts states discussion of anime and manga with romance; Kirito and Asuna or Simon and Nia. Please reread the first post so you can actually be a bit pedantic here.

Otherwise, I've been noticing several short posts....
The lot of you are fortunate I can't be on as much anymore.
[/quote]

"purely and so subjective" here actually refers to anything not listed within the boundaries of discussion stated in the first post, as you kindly pointed out. One thing is me being vague, another is you jumping at that without stopping to think at what I might have meant.

That aside, I've been looking for advice. Or rather, not looking for it; but needing it.

Chloe and I are stuck in a long-distance relationship, that's been going on for around six months after a year of in-person relationship, after which we got separated.

The thing is, I'm afraid she might lose interest, and we talk increasingly less frequently. Has anyone been through anything remotely similar as to tell me what to expect?

[DL]

[quote name='Hina~' timestamp='1357573953' post='6114124']
While I won't mention that "general" is [i]purely[/i] and so subjective you shouldn't even mention it, the first posts states discussion of anime and manga with romance; Kirito and Asuna or Simon and Nia. Please reread the first post so you can actually be a bit pedantic here.

Otherwise, I've been noticing several short posts....
The lot of you are fortunate I can't be on as much anymore.
[/quote]Love ya, Hina

And actually, yeah

I admit, there's a few short posts, and IDK wtf discussion about sleep is doin here (I made that comment recently simply because prettyness = more chance to find a partner = love o3o)


But yeah, if I see another post without the word boyfriend, girlfriend, love, sex, emotional (or any words derived from that)

Yer all dead

*shot*


But no, seriously, at least TRY to behave when I turn my back people o3o


@Steel - If you just wanna make friends and have general discussions there ARE two clubs for that I believe


@Marco - I know kind of how you feel.


It's not as bad for me, and not a 'constant' thing that can't be changed.


Let me ask, do you plan on meeting her irl one day?

[Mugendramon]

[quote name='Hayate Ayasaki~' timestamp='1357575653' post='6114168']
@Marco - I know kind of how you feel.


It's not as bad for me, and not a 'constant' thing that can't be changed.


Let me ask, do you plan on meeting her irl one day?
[/quote]

I am actually. I'll go to Boston to meet up with her for... one day... ;~;

But yeah, I'm actually going to try and meet up with her more often as times allow. I'm not exactly wealthy and she's not quite around the corner.

[Steel Crimson]

[quote name='Mugendramon' timestamp='1357576439' post='6114188']
I am actually. I'll go to Boston to meet up with her for... one day... ;~;

But yeah, I'm actually going to try and meet up with her more often as times allow. I'm not exactly wealthy and she's not quite around the corner.
[/quote]

I guess I am in the same position as you, I am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and we plan on meeting, I know we will its just the when, we're not rushing, I think the aim is to take that step when you're ready to, the time doesn't yet suit that step for me, this might be different for you and your girlfriend as you've been together 2 months longer, this is the only advice I can offer, take it slow and make sure first, make it so that it is a gentle step for you and for her.

[DL]

Hmm


Honestly

If it gets to be too much need for love and affection for the both of you, if you two REALLY like each other

You can try to break-up, see different people, enjoy life, etc, until the time comes when you can be together for more than just 'a day'

=0

It'll be better than to let the relationship grow tiresome

[Mugendramon]

[quote name='Steel Crimson' timestamp='1357576706' post='6114200']
I guess I am in the same position as you, I am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and we plan on meeting, I know we will its just the when, we're not rushing, I think the aim is to take that step when you're ready to, the time doesn't yet suit that step for me, this might be different for you and your girlfriend as you've been together 2 months longer, this is the only advice I can offer, take it slow and make sure first, make it so that it is a gentle step for you and for her.
[/quote]

Two months...? What?

We've been together for a year and a half, tyvm.[quote name='Hayate Ayasaki~' timestamp='1357576903' post='6114206']
Hmm


Honestly

If it gets to be too much need for love and affection for the both of you, if you two REALLY like each other

You can try to break-up, see different people, enjoy life, etc, until the time comes when you can be together for more than just 'a day'

=0

It'll be better than to let the relationship grow tiresome
[/quote]

I don't exactly NEED affection to survive, and I sure as hell can wait. The fact that I can't get girls anyway really contributes to this mindset ;D

But if it's her who needs to see other people, then I can live with it. It's just it always seemed unlikely because she was as much of a lo(n/s)er as I was. Maybe being with me changed that in her? Dunno.

[Steel Crimson]

[quote name='Hayate Ayasaki~' timestamp='1357576903' post='6114206']
Hmm


Honestly

If it gets to be too much need for love and affection for the both of you, if you two REALLY like each other

You can try to break-up, see different people, enjoy life, etc, until the time comes when you can be together for more than just 'a day'

=0

It'll be better than to let the relationship grow tiresome
[/quote]

I agree with you a tiny part but don't you think that WOULD be very painfrul and seemingly impossible if you were in love with the person? I know it would be for me, I've been there. Sometimes its better just to work it out and stick together, couples have ups and downs and you have to roll with both of them

[DL]

It's surprisingly easy for me, being the womanizer I am.

I'd still rather stick with my girlfriend, but....yeah


Also, Marco, I think he meant that you've been with yours 2 months longer than he's been with his xD



Also, if that's how you think...then, you should discuss that possibility with her =0 To see what she thinks.

[Steel Crimson]

[quote name='Hayate Ayasaki~' timestamp='1357576903' post='6114206']
Hmm


Honestly

If it gets to be too much need for love and affection for the both of you, if you two REALLY like each other

You can try to break-up, see different people, enjoy life, etc, until the time comes when you can be together for more than just 'a day'

=0

It'll be better than to let the relationship grow tiresome
[/quote]

I agree with you a tiny part but don't you think that WOULD be very painfrul and seemingly impossible if you were in love with the person? I know it would be for me, I've been there. Sometimes its better just to work it out and stick together, couples have ups and downs and you have to roll with both the ups and downs.

Also, Mugen, I'm sorry that I misread.

[Cute Rotten Yoshika]

[quote name='Mugendramon' timestamp='1357575265' post='6114151']
"purely and so subjective" here actually refers to anything not listed within the boundaries of discussion stated in the first post, as you kindly pointed out. One thing is me being vague, another is you jumping at that without stopping to think at what I might have meant.

That aside, I've been looking for advice. Or rather, not looking for it; but needing it.

Chloe and I are stuck in a long-distance relationship, that's been going on for around six months after a year of in-person relationship, after which we got separated.

The thing is, I'm afraid she might lose interest, and we talk increasingly less frequently. Has anyone been through anything remotely similar as to tell me what to expect?
[/quote]

i know its not nearly the same thing, but do you/how often do you guys talk on the phone or skype? phone calls can be expensive but skype is free for any amount of voice chat and video calls (though only two people can do video calls for free. shouldnt be a problem in this case.) ive found it really helps with maintaining feelings for partners and it can make up for not seeing each other often.

[Mugendramon]

[quote name='clairedestroyer' timestamp='1357600668' post='6114603']
i know its not nearly the same thing, but do you/how often do you guys talk on the phone or skype? phone calls can be expensive but skype is free for any amount of voice chat and video calls (though only two people can do video calls for free. shouldnt be a problem in this case.) ive found it really helps with maintaining feelings for partners and it can make up for not seeing each other often.
[/quote]

Oh, yeah, we use Skype a lot. Or... whatever word I'm supposed to use to describe once every other week.

We DO talk for hours on end... and we DID spend New Year's on Skype (<3), but I really wish I could see more of her. Thing is, she's really busy with the ton of hobbies whereas I have no passtime but to come here.

[Cute Rotten Yoshika]

ahhhhhhhh. i see now. yeah thats rough. my only suggestion then is i guess try and spend as much time with her as you can and make it as meaningful as you can. good luck.

[Mr.WHAM]

[quote name='Mugendramon' timestamp='1357600907' post='6114610']
Oh, yeah, we use Skype a lot. Or... whatever word I'm supposed to use to describe once every other week.

We DO talk for hours on end... and we DID spend New Year's on Skype (<3), but I really wish I could see more of her. Thing is, she's really busy with the ton of hobbies whereas I have no passtime but to come here.
[/quote]

You need communication. One thing that always presents is self is that the increase in distance provides a lack of many different things, so calls, texts, skype conversations, etc mean a lot more so make the most out of it. In addition, do not be afraid to disturb her. She has hobbies of her own but that doesn't mean she won't stop to text you in the midst of them. People DO make time for each other.

The next thing is keep busy. It will keep your mind off of her & allow you to better yourself in the process. I recommend finding a job. It's simply the best option, it gives you money to give you the ability to see her as well as gives you time for tasks. This is of course is a route. There are other options like skating, sports etc.

Plan out trips for effecient use of money as possible. From certain places in NYC you can catch a bus to Boston for $15. Depending on where you live that's pretty easy money.

Finally, figure out she wants & needs from you now that this distance has increased. Then act on it accordingly and confidently. If you do this, then with any luck, you will stay together forever.

[Mugendramon]

[quote name='Mr.WHAM' timestamp='1357607134' post='6114727']
You need communication. One thing that always presents is self is that the increase in distance provides a lack of many different things, so calls, texts, skype conversations, etc mean a lot more so make the most out of it. In addition, do not be afraid to disturb her. She has hobbies of her own but that doesn't mean she won't stop to text you in the midst of them. People DO make time for each other.

The next thing is keep busy. It will keep your mind off of her & allow you to better yourself in the process. I recommend finding a job. It's simply the best option, it gives you money to give you the ability to see her as well as gives you time for tasks. This is of course is a route. There are other options like skating, sports etc.

Plan out trips for effecient use of money as possible. From certain places in NYC you can catch a bus to Boston for $15. Depending on where you live that's pretty easy money.

Finally, figure out she wants & needs from you now that this distance has increased. Then act on it accordingly and confidently. If you do this, then with any luck, you will stay together forever.
[/quote]

...HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Wrong end of the [i]continent.[/i] I live in Argentina. I can't text her. I can't go see her for less than $700 and a good ten hours. Communication is important, but it's not the same to be on the same country and to be on the opposite end of America.

[Mr.WHAM]

[quote name='Mugendramon' timestamp='1357611539' post='6114812']
...HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Wrong end of the [i]continent.[/i] I live in Argentina. I can't text her. I can't go see her for less than $700 and a good ten hours. Communication is important, but it's not the same to be on the same country and to be on the opposite end of America.
[/quote]

Wish I knew the Argentina thing before hand. If that's the case then I'd say change how you plan to travel to stay with her. If you are going spend $700 anyways why not make it $1000 and stay for like a week extra. And the countries don't matter for communication; the Internet has shown us that, the important thing is the time zone, which i lieave to you to figure out. My other pints still stand though.

[Mugendramon]

Oh, I guess I should have thoroughly decomposed your post.

[quote name='Mr.WHAM' timestamp='1357607134' post='6114727']
You need communication. One thing that always presents is self is that the increase in distance provides a lack of many different things, so calls, texts, skype conversations, etc mean a lot more so make the most out of it. In addition, do not be afraid to disturb her. She has hobbies of her own but that doesn't mean she won't stop to text you in the midst of them. People DO make time for each other.
[/quote]

As I said, I can't text her. No phone company around here allows for long-distance texting. Plus, you know, I can't interrupt a [i]theatre performance or a class.[/i]

[quote]
The next thing is keep busy. It will keep your mind off of her & allow you to better yourself in the process. I recommend finding a job. It's simply the best option, it gives you money to give you the ability to see her as well as gives you time for tasks. This is of course is a route.
[/quote]

Err... that kind of stuff isn't done here. Nobody's going to pay a 16 year old to clean their pool or mow their lawn. Hell, most people don't have a pool or a lawn, and those who do can afford a professional anyway.

[quote]
There are other options like skating, sports etc.
[/quote]

I do swim. It's not like I can't keep my mind off of her, it's just I don't WANT her out of my mind whenever possible. As poisonous as that may sound.

[quote]
Plan out trips for effecient use of money as possible. From certain places in NYC you can catch a bus to Boston for $15. Depending on where you live that's pretty easy money.
[/quote]

Already explained.

[quote]
Finally, figure out she wants & needs from you now that this distance has increased. Then act on it accordingly and confidently. If you do this, then with any luck, you will stay together forever.
[/quote]

Wants/needs? She wants my company and support. But she really needs nothing from me that any other guy/smartass can give her. I [i]want[/i] to think we'll be together for a long time... but it just sounds, unrealistic.

[quote name='Mr.WHAM' timestamp='1357611986' post='6114819']
Wish I knew the Argentina thing before hand. If that's the case then I'd say change how you plan to travel to stay with her. If you are going spend $700 anyways why not make it $1000 and stay for like a week extra. And the countries don't matter for communication; the Internet has shown us that, the important thing is the time zone, which I leave to you to figure out. My other pints still stand though.
[/quote]

Because I don't have that kind of money and have no means of earning it. Hell, I probably can't even trade the equivalent of 1000 bucks into 1000 bucks because the official means to do so is restricted by the government. The timezones deal is pretty simple though, just a one hour difference.

Still, my parents wouldn't spend a thousand dollars to let me see "that one girl who he'll probably forget anyway".

[Mr.WHAM]

[quote name='Mugendramon' timestamp='1357612631' post='6114834']
Oh, I guess I should have thoroughly decomposed your post.



As I said, I can't text her. No phone company around here allows for long-distance texting. Plus, you know, I can't interrupt a [i]theatre performance or a class.[/i]
[b][url="http://www.pinger.com/content/home.html"]http://www.pinger.co...ntent/home.html[/url]
^[/b]
[b]U got internet therefore you can text. Lie about your area code. Umm, just use 07110. Theater performance, no, Class yes so long as she's not teaching/ out right in front of it.
I did a LOT of texting back in high school during class. [/b][b]If you can't make one, I'll make it for you and send you the account information. Did I mention it is free for her to call you?[/b]

Err... that kind of stuff isn't done here. Nobody's going to pay a 16 year old to clean their pool or mow their lawn. Hell, most people don't have a pool or a lawn, and those who do can afford a professional anyway.
[b]I didn't specify what kind of job but regardless Mugen this is an excuse. I will not say it is easy to get a job, but that doesn't mean you should not look. ALWAYS LOOK. If you want one, find it. Work at a corner store, laundromat, start your own business etc. Do you get an allowance? If so, do more work around the house to get a raise in it.[/b]

I do swim. It's not like I can't keep my mind off of her, it's just I don't WANT her out of my mind whenever possible. As poisonous as that may sound.
[b]Not a bad thing, just don't indulge it too much or you may feel lonely or something else.[/b]

Already explained.
[b]Go down 2 then up 4.[/b]


Wants/needs? She wants my company and support. But she really needs nothing from me that any other guy/smartass can give her. I [i]want[/i] to think we'll be together for a long time... but it just sounds, unrealistic. [b]You can give her support. You know her better than those other males do. That's 1 advantage you have which counts as like 5. You've spent over a year with her that's and that's another multi point advantage. You know what makes this girl laugh, you know what makes her smile when she's missing something, you know whether or not she thinks bunnies are cuter than cats or her musical tastes. The point is you know how to make her feel loved an accepted and so long as you do that AND she does it for you, then the other men are non motherloving factors. Don't succumb to self-pity or doubts or play yourself down. You are the person she wants to be with.[/b]


Because I don't have that kind of money and have no means of earning it. Hell, I probably can't even trade the equivalent of 1000 bucks into 1000 bucks because the official means to do so is restricted by the government. The timezones deal is pretty simple though, just a one hour difference.

Still, my parents wouldn't spend a thousand dollars to let me see "that one girl who he'll probably forget anyway".
[b]If you were going to forget about her, you wouldn't care and you should make it known to your parents how much she means to you. Get invested in your time and make some money. Walk around looking for loose change on the streets. Sell water. Prostitute. Whatever. If you feel she's drifting away and you cannot solve it, then tell her how you feel. Work it out together. Because either it will work out right now or it will not. What I am telling you is things for it to work. [/b]

[/quote]

At the end of it all, the hardest part of a long distance relationship isn't the distance itself but what the distance does to you, whether it be your resolve, emotions, or state of mind. It puts you through a test and it isn't for the faint of heart.

[Mugendramon]

[quote name='Mr.WHAM' timestamp='1357613900' post='6114865'][b][url="http://www.pinger.com/content/home.html"]http://www.pinger.co...ntent/home.html[/url][/b]
[b]^[/b]
[b]U got internet therefore you can text. Lie about your area code. Umm, just use 07110. Theater performance, no, Class yes so long as she's not teaching/ out right in front of it.
I did a LOT of texting back in high school during class. [/b][b]If you can't make one, I'll make it for you and send you the account information. Did I mention it is free for her to call you?[/b]
[/quote]
Err, if you mean internet on my phone, I have an old rock for one. Doesn't even have internet on it.

[quote]
[b]I didn't specify what kind of job but regardless Mugen this is an excuse. I will not say it is easy to get a job, but that doesn't mean you should not look. ALWAYS LOOK. If you want one, find it. Work at a corner store, laundromat, start your own business etc. Do you get an allowance? If so, do more work around the house to get a raise in it.[/b]
[/quote]

People don't employ minors and to be honest, the mentality is already very different around here. People won't just hire you to work at their stores, the idea just sounds stupid to them and you get ignored if not laughed at. Tried before.

Err, 20 bucks a month. All my parents can afford to give me, really. We live in a small apartment anyway, there's not even much to do around the house.

[quote]
[b]You can give her support. You know her better than those other males do. That's 1 advantage you have which counts as like 5. You've spent over a year with her that's and that's another multi point advantage. You know what makes this girl laugh, you know what makes her smile when she's missing something, you know whether or not she thinks bunnies are cuter than cats or her musical tastes. The point is you know how to make her feel loved an accepted and so long as you do that AND she does it for you, then the other men are non motherloving factors. Don't succumb to self-pity or doubts or play yourself down. You are the person she wants to be with.[/b]
[/quote]

This bit is true and I appreciate it.

[quote]
[b]If you were going to forget about her, you wouldn't care and you should make it known to your parents how much she means to you. Get invested in your time and make some money. Walk around looking for loose change on the streets. Sell water. Prostitute. Whatever. If you feel she's drifting away and you cannot solve it, then tell her how you feel. Work it out together. Because either it will work out right now or it will not. What I am telling you is things for it to work. [/b]
[/quote]

She's not drifting away yet, and she won't until we meet again, as it's already set. It's a point in time we're looking forward to, we're holding to. But after that. It's just not easy to tell your first love that it's not going to work out. Can't just come out of your mouth.

[quote]
At the end of it all, the hardest part of a long distance relationship isn't the distance itself but what the distance does to you, whether it be your resolve, emotions, or state of mind. It puts you through a test and it isn't for the faint of heart.
[/quote]

You know how it goes on the internet. The bigger their outside ego, the more insecure inside. As you may have told from posts I've made elsewhere around the place, I have a decent-sized ego. But I'll hold on to her for as long as I can, that's for sure. She is far too dear to me, I couldn't possibly let go.