Aerion Brightflame Posted January 4, 2013 Report Share Posted January 4, 2013 I'm stuck being able to move on from my last relationship. Its.. eaten away at me as a person, it's made me worse but stronger. I have so much guilt from that relationship, and the mistakes I made in it that I feel crap about it. Not to mention through an irritating quirk, my mental condition that causes me to obsess over things has made her one of those things, so I get stuck with flashback moments of our relationship playing in my head which drives me mad. I don't want to have the attraction to her that I have anymore, as much as I both love having it and hate it. But... she has this uncanny ability of smiling and laughing and then all the pain goes away. And she still makes me happy when we are around each other, and we talk and laugh and joke around like we did when we were together. But in the same vein, she can crash my mood in an instant. Which... sucks horribly. But I can't help but feel for her. I don't want to, I just want to be friends, but my head doesn't let me. She is the bane of my life in more ways than one. I would rant on for hours about how she has wrecked my life and made it better but I don't want to bore anyone. I guess it doesn't help that it was my first serious relationship, and that we got into it through being friends, which makes being friends with her now bring back these memories. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DL Posted January 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Overlord Barty' timestamp='1357335010' post='6111235'] I'm stuck being able to move on from my last relationship. Its.. eaten away at me as a person, it's made me worse but stronger. I have so much guilt from that relationship, and the mistakes I made in it that I feel crap about it. Not to mention through an irritating quirk, my mental condition that causes me to obsess over things has made her one of those things, so I get stuck with flashback moments of our relationship playing in my head which drives me mad. I don't want to have the attraction to her that I have anymore, as much as I both love having it and hate it. But... she has this uncanny ability of smiling and laughing and then all the pain goes away. And she still makes me happy when we are around each other, and we talk and laugh and joke around like we did when we were together. But in the same vein, she can crash my mood in an instant. Which... sucks horribly. But I can't help but feel for her. I don't want to, I just want to be friends, but my head doesn't let me. She is the bane of my life in more ways than one. I would rant on for hours about how she has wrecked my life and made it better but I don't want to bore anyone. I guess it doesn't help that it was my first serious relationship, and that we got into it through being friends, which makes being friends with her now bring back these memories. [/quote] I must admit, I'm quite curious I also know the feeling of having someone who can both brighten OR destroy your mood in an instant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spirit of DMG Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 Marisa-Sama... why is everything you say just as beautiful as you are? Barty... for once, I don't know what to say about this. I've never been in a situation where I both hate and love someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Reiji Kokonoe' timestamp='1357356498' post='6111617'] Marisa-Sama... why is everything you say just as beautiful as you are? [/quote] It's part of her evil plot to take over the world. Be careful~ Oh, and if anyone wants a suggestion for feel-good music but don't want to understand the lyrics... "Step" by Kara. I think I just unconsciously broke into dance listening to it, and I just love everybody! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DL Posted January 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Reiji Kokonoe' timestamp='1357356498' post='6111617'] Marisa-Sama... why is everything you say just as beautiful as you are? Barty... for once, I don't know what to say about this. I've never been in a situation where I both hate and love someone. [/quote] I..... Well, can't deny, she IS very good-looking. But why is EVERYONE AND THEIR MOTHERS AFTER YOU, MARISA-SAMA? @.@ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aerion Brightflame Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 Everyone does seem to love Marisa. I do assume it due to the fact that as everyone has stated, she is good looking. @Renji. Its an odd an frustrating feeling. And well, if you ever wanna know more DL, then feel free to ask. It's normally not to far from the surface of my mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisa Kirisame-ze Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Fluttershy401' timestamp='1357326544' post='6111109'] I love every single word you say o3o But yeah Nice words there xD I personally like romance, because it's fun, and a way to make girls happy :3 [/quote] Thank you~ And yeah, it is pretty fun and extremely exciting and just something else. It's nice, for the most part. Especially when all you want to do is make the person you like happy. [quote name='Rapidfire' timestamp='1357328754' post='6111139'] I'm surprised by how deep you can be. Tho I'm not really a charmer, well at least I don't think I am. I am pretty honest when it comes to this stuff, it's bit me back a couple of times, but I don't really see the reason why I should not be blunt if they ask me "who do you like?" I'll tell them that, but I'm not gonna change the amount of effort I put in to this. I understand the concept of you only live once, but you know I don't really like rushing it. I feel like I'm more of a time person. Heck I like everyone at first, but to truly like someone I can only accomplish that over time. I feel like when I rush the process, it never ends well. Oh and you know the word courage is everywhere, except love. In my case my courage runs away around someone I like. [/quote] Well, you should never rush things, because that definitely does ruin moments. But don't hold yourself back either. And I feel ya, sometimes I call myself emotionally slutty because I tend to like every beautiful person who can look me in the eyes. But it's good to be honest, instead of denying your feelings. And everyone deals with love completely differently. It's a beautiful thing. [quote name='Overlord Barty' timestamp='1357335010' post='6111235'] I'm stuck being able to move on from my last relationship. Its.. eaten away at me as a person, it's made me worse but stronger. I have so much guilt from that relationship, and the mistakes I made in it that I feel crap about it. Not to mention through an irritating quirk, my mental condition that causes me to obsess over things has made her one of those things, so I get stuck with flashback moments of our relationship playing in my head which drives me mad. I don't want to have the attraction to her that I have anymore, as much as I both love having it and hate it. But... she has this uncanny ability of smiling and laughing and then all the pain goes away. And she still makes me happy when we are around each other, and we talk and laugh and joke around like we did when we were together. But in the same vein, she can crash my mood in an instant. Which... sucks horribly. But I can't help but feel for her. I don't want to, I just want to be friends, but my head doesn't let me. She is the bane of my life in more ways than one. I would rant on for hours about how she has wrecked my life and made it better but I don't want to bore anyone. I guess it doesn't help that it was my first serious relationship, and that we got into it through being friends, which makes being friends with her now bring back these memories. [/quote] Ah, the eternal struggle of heart vs. head. I think it's an incredibly unhealthy thing, and you just need to know what you want, while compromising with both elements of feeling and logic. I think in this case, wanting to get out of this relationship triumphs staying. At least for now. [quote name='Reiji Kokonoe' timestamp='1357356498' post='6111617'] Marisa-Sama... why is everything you say just as beautiful as you are? [/quote] You all are incredibly sweet, and I appreciate it all the time <3 [quote name='Yan-Tsundere Barrel' timestamp='1357356697' post='6111619'] It's part of her evil plot to take over the world. Be careful~ [/quote] You know me so well ;D [quote name='Fluttershy401' timestamp='1357357459' post='6111628'] I..... Well, can't deny, she IS very good-looking. But why is EVERYONE AND THEIR MOTHERS AFTER YOU, MARISA-SAMA? @.@ [/quote] I HONESTLY HAVE NO CLUE YOU ALL ARE CRAZY <3 [quote name='Overlord Barty' timestamp='1357358548' post='6111637'] Everyone does seem to love Marisa. I do assume it due to the fact that as everyone has stated, she is good looking. [/quote] I really hope it's not just because I'm "good looking" because that'd be the biggest waste of my personality ;(( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spirit of DMG Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 Lol, it's not that, though anyone who says you're not is obviously completely blind. I was liking Marisa-Sama before I ever saw Marisa-Sama. =^.^=~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Marisa Kirisame-ze' timestamp='1357362067' post='6111667'] You know me so well ;D [/quote] I always seem to know when someone is secretly playing the evil overlord. 'Tis a blessing and a curse~ [quote name='Marisa Kirisame-ze' timestamp='1357362067' post='6111667'] I really hope it's not just because I'm "good looking" because that'd be the biggest waste of my personality ;(( [/quote] OH MY GAWD, YES! [img]http://bloximages.chicago2.vip.townnews.com/newportri.com/content/tncms/assets/v3/editorial/c/b9/cb957a9a-e91d-54c3-aca1-17591149edf6/5040ec335f215.preview-300.jpg[/img] HAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAW~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapidfire Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 Marisa, that is the biggest coincidence ever... I literally called myself a emotional whore while I was talking with DL this morning. I don't really take offense to it, since it is true. Oh and I don't really think it's because your pretty, I think it's because one you give pretty damn good advice, two you always have something nice to say (unlike me, I always end up saying something dumb), three your incredibly nice. I would say that is why all of the guys on here like you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 I'm not head over heels for you Marisa. You are a nice person to be around, but talking to someone and getting to know them is what helps a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisa Kirisame-ze Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Reiji Kokonoe' timestamp='1357362417' post='6111676'] Lol, it's not that, though anyone who says you're not is obviously completely blind. I was liking Marisa-Sama before I ever saw Marisa-Sama. =^.^=~ [/quote] I appreciate it! And I'd rather gain my friendships here in that manor haha. [quote name='Yan-Tsundere Barrel' timestamp='1357363079' post='6111685'] I always seem to know when someone is secretly playing the evil overlord. 'Tis a blessing and a curse~ OH MY GAWD, YES! HAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAWHAW~ [/quote] Just try to get out of America before I take over. Things are gonna get...absurd. AND WHAT DOES THAT PHOTO EVEN MEAN WHAT [quote name='Rapidfire' timestamp='1357363872' post='6111695'] Marisa, that is the biggest coincidence ever... I literally called myself a emotional whore while I was talking with DL this morning. I don't really take offense to it, since it is true. Oh and I don't really think it's because your pretty, I think it's because one you give pretty damn good advice, two you always have something nice to say (unlike me, I always end up saying something dumb), three your incredibly nice. I would say that is why all of the guys on here like you. [/quote] I feel ya then! I guess we're pretty similar. I mean, we definitely shouldn't look down on that aspect of ourselves. As long as we can control it a bit, it's not really a flaw. And thank you <3 All your guys' words is simply the best, really. [quote name='Striker' timestamp='1357364468' post='6111701'] I'm not head over heels for you Marisa. You are a nice person to be around, but talking to someone and getting to know them is what helps a lot. [/quote] Good, you shouldn't be! I don't deserve all the attention I get here haha. But exactly, that's the only way to go about it. That's when you're able to truly determine if someone's great or not. --- But anyways, let's get off the subject of me, because it feels strange haha. I propose a few questions for all of you now, yay! How were your guys' days? Any crazy, love-related goals this year? Are you friends with an ex? Are any of you jealous types? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spirit of DMG Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 My days completely suck as of late. The only goal I have is to find a girlfriend. Yes, and the place she left will never be filled, I fear, though that doesn't mean I can't try to find someone else. No, I don't think I'm jealous, but, well, the way I was done... I just haven't fully gotten over it yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.WHAM Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Reiji Kokonoe' timestamp='1357376534' post='6111765'] My days completely suck as of late. The only goal I have is to find a girlfriend. Yes, and the place she left will never be filled, I fear, though that doesn't mean I can't try to find someone else. No, I don't think I'm jealous, but, well, the way I was done... I just haven't fully gotten over it yet. [/quote] As I read this my soul reached out and hugged you. I cannot explain how well I know that. If you want to talk about it, please PM me. As for moving on, you need a rebound, someone who can renew your faith & vigor so to speak in the dating world. There's many types of rebounds but some are worth more keeping then others. However, don't move into this with out being ready aka move at your own pace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DL Posted January 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 @Barty - I'd like to know a few more specifics through PM, yeah =0 If it's alright. @Kitty - yeah that's pretty much it. Marisa-sama is one of the coolest, nicest people I've seen. You never get bored fo talkin with her, and she's always got a great positive attitude. Heck, if anything, I've seen her upset only a couple times, and I feel a bit guilty when I say, I always find it a tad cute when she uses the "=n=" smiley xD And she's freaking beautiful to boot O_o It's hardly unfair to the competition. But that's besides the point. Chasing after her's too mainstream now. Plus I'm taken o3o~ @Marisa-sama Actually, interestingly enough, I'm getting closer to 2 of my ex's Well, I was pretty close with Rapid, but we've been talking more recently. And a mexican ex I had (Mrs Rarity/Killer Sweet/ookahereh) on here) is also getting closer to me. Or rather, again. Because we were extremely close friends before we started dating. I actually keep a nice relationship with most of my exs that I still see, and even a couple I don't talk to, I'm on good terms with. It's a good thing~ I don't have any love related goals, cuz I gots all the love I need now ;D Tho seriously speaking, there's always a few tweaks that need to be worked on by both sides on any relationship. I am DEFINITELY the jealous type. However it's the bad type of jealous, because I'm jealous when you talk with family members, go do some hobbies, go out someplace, etc etc If there was an "Overly Attached Boyfriend" I could easily be that. It's honestly quite silly, and it just proves how much I want attention and love, which is slightly pathetic, but I'm working on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cute Rotten Yoshika Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 i am actually the exact opposite of a jealous type. the "different conception of romance" i talked about all the way back when i first joined is that i am pretty polyamorous. so i absolutely do not mind if my partner does stuff with other people. though i only have one girl in my life at the moment and shes pretty much attached to just me and i wouldnt change that. ~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DL Posted January 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='clairedestroyer' timestamp='1357388428' post='6111802'] i am actually the exact opposite of a jealous type. the "different conception of romance" i talked about all the way back when i first joined is that i am pretty polyamorous. so i absolutely do not mind if my partner does stuff with other people. though i only have one girl in my life at the moment and shes pretty much attached to just me and i wouldnt change that. ~ [/quote] The bad part is, I'm also pretty polyamorous. I control myself, usually, but.... o3o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cute Rotten Yoshika Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 its not a problem in itself as long as you and everyone involved communicate VERY VERY clearly. my last major relationship ended because the partner in question stopped talking about important relationship stuff then stopped talking at all. when you add more people the amount of understanding and talking that needs to take place increases exponentially, not linearly. im not currently looking for a second partner or anything like that mostly because i am not in a good enough place at the moment to make that kind of devotion, but even if i were it would take awhile to talk things out with my current girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aerion Brightflame Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 Go ahead DL. I have no objections. I have no clue what my love related aims are this year because heart and head are clashing as ever. I consider my ex one of my best friends. Even after how crap the end of our relationship was, we eventually managed to stay friends. Which part of me feels is more than I deserve, but I'm still thankful for it. I doubt I would be able to cope a lot of the time without it. I'm only jealous around people I have feelings for because of my lack of confidence. I view many positive interactions with other people as signs of them flirting and having feelings for them. Which is annoying as anything. But for the most part, I won't be jealous. I wouldn't say I was jealous when I was in a relationship though, which is odd. @Marisa, people probably all seem to like you because you are many peoples dream girl from what I know of your reputation around here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CinnamonStar Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 sup fellow crazies?<3 Happy new year! [quote name='Marisa Kirisame-ze' timestamp='1357376103' post='6111764'] I propose a few questions for all of you now, yay! How were your guys' days? Any crazy, love-related goals this year? Are you friends with an ex? Are any of you jealous types? [/quote] Not much really. I have pretty boring stories compared to most of you here, haha.^^ Contrary to what people probably expect at least. I've been with the same person for more than 3 years, looking forward to 4 in a few months. Every relationship has its up and downs, but in the end, you have to consider whether it's worth staying together and you can look over things in the larger picture. We've been able to do that so far. I wouldn't say I'm the jealous type though and I don't actually have any exes [s]not in Texas or anywhere[/s]. (This is Opal/Raven btw, hi! :3) [quote name='Reiji Kokonoe' timestamp='1357376534' post='6111765'] My days completely suck as of late. The only goal I have is to find a girlfriend. Yes, and the place she left will never be filled, I fear, though that doesn't mean I can't try to find someone else. No, I don't think I'm jealous, but, well, the way I was done... I just haven't fully gotten over it yet. [/quote] Give yourself time to get over it. Sometimes you're unable to do it on your own and you need someone else who helps you with it (which might well be that girl waiting for you somewhere). But even if you're still hurt; if you feel you're ready to 'move on', no one can keep you from looking for someone else. [quote name='Fluttershy401' timestamp='1357387306' post='6111797'] Actually, interestingly enough, I'm getting closer to 2 of my ex's Well, I was pretty close with Rapid, but we've been talking more recently. And a mexican ex I had (Mrs Rarity/Killer Sweet/ookahereh) on here) is also getting closer to me. Or rather, again. Because we were extremely close friends before we started dating. I actually keep a nice relationship with most of my exs that I still see, and even a couple I don't talk to, I'm on good terms with. It's a good thing~ I don't have any love related goals, cuz I gots all the love I need now ;D Tho seriously speaking, there's always a few tweaks that need to be worked on by both sides on any relationship. I am DEFINITELY the jealous type. However it's the bad type of jealous, because I'm jealous when you talk with family members, go do some hobbies, go out someplace, etc etc If there was an "Overly Attached Boyfriend" I could easily be that. It's honestly quite silly, and it just proves how much I want attention and love, which is slightly pathetic, but I'm working on it. [/quote] Killer Sweet was our ex?o.o You're the Overly Attached Boyfriend?O.o Don't give me that, I need to digest it first! [size=2]jk...[/size] But didn't expect that.:3 And about polyamory, I know a lot of people who lean that way. The key is being clear about your perceptions and making sure that neither of the parties get hurt. That's more or less what you should pay attention to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapidfire Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 My days have been great, tho I have to learn this mock trial case. Ugh, I don't wanna. My "love goals" are to stop liking so many damn people at one time. Considering I have only had a couple of exes I am great friends with all of them. I actually think I best friends with all of them. ^^" I don't really think I'm jealous that much. If they have someone else in their lives I kinda look at that as more of a challenge, then a set back. Plus I'm patient, and just like you said that one time, no one stays with one person forever. But by the time they already broke up, I probably found someone else. I do like multiple people at one time. >.< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tourmaline Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Marisa Kirisame-ze' timestamp='1357376103' post='6111764'] I feel ya then! I guess we're pretty similar. I mean, we definitely shouldn't look down on that aspect of ourselves. As long as we can control it a bit, it's not really a flaw. And thank you <3 All your guys' words is simply the best, really. [/quote] You're not very similar in too many ways. She's still very naive compared to you, but there are people to help redeem that shortcoming through aid. The time of year that passed had no emotional significance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DL Posted January 5, 2013 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 @Cinnabon - Yeah, Killer Sweet was my ex. She was dating this guy here named techi, but I kinda convinced her to dump him for me.... Then a few months later I was the one who broke up with HER Cuz she was a bit like an overly attached girlfriend ^.^'' Way more love than I can handle xD And yeah, a bit of an Overly Attached Boyfriend. I don't exactly act on it too much But I often get a bit sad/troubled, for example, when my girlfriend wants to have an afternoon drawing or something, or when she gets distracted talking with someone. It's silly, like I said. I want attention, what can I say? xD However, at least it shows I appreciate them being around ^.^'' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapidfire Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Hina~' timestamp='1357402147' post='6111881'] You're not very similar in too many ways. She's still very naive compared to you, but there are people to help redeem that shortcoming through aid. The time of year that passed had no emotional significance. [/quote] Yeah I totally am naive, and I'm fine with that. I think being a bit emotional, crazy, stupid, hyper, dense, hopeless, and naive is what makes me. I have way to many flaws I'm not content with, but that's fine with me. Everyone learns over time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted January 5, 2013 Report Share Posted January 5, 2013 [quote name='Marisa Kirisame-ze' timestamp='1357376103' post='6111764'] AND WHAT DOES THAT PHOTO EVEN MEAN WHAT [/quote] Have you never heard of Gabriel Iglesias? The comedian? Look him up on Youtube. He's hysterical! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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