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Hi I am Mr.Wham
[color=#5A5A5A][font=tahoma, helvetica, arial, sans-serif][size=3]Gender?: Male.[/size][/font][/color]
[color=#5A5A5A][font=tahoma, helvetica, arial, sans-serif][size=3]Are you in a relationship?: No. [/size][/font][/color]
[color=#5A5A5A][font=tahoma, helvetica, arial, sans-serif][size=3]Do you have love experience?: I keep my pimp hand strong. JK. I considered myself an expert on the subject since the age of 14 and have only gotten wiser since. I call myself Dr.Pockets, and have an associate, the Date Doctor aka Hitch 2.0[/size][/font][/color]
[color=#5A5A5A][font=tahoma, helvetica, arial, sans-serif][size=3]Do you mind having your relationship status open to public? Nope not all.[/size][/font][/color]

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Is this amount of people joining normal?

Anyhow, time for me to act on the reason why I joined this club. Could anyone here, tell me why go into a relationship? I'm happily single, not seeing anyone nor wanting any romantic nor sexual relationship with anyone and I can't wrap my mind about this.....Alien and disturbing train of thought, well, at least to me, of being in a "relationship".

Tell me, why? Tell me every bit of detail that even makes being in a relationship great or even better then being single? I know of the benefits of finance, security, etc, but it still seems alien to me.

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Because... I had a good relationship with someone once upon a time. At least, I thought it was good... and while it was going on, I came to forget what it was like being single. Before I met her, I was happily single. Didn't care about being in a relationship, didn't particularly want one. But... during those two years, I developed a liking of having someone who I could tell anything to. Having that someone who I could embrace, share life with. Someone to accept me no matter what. And now, being single again, it just feels so lonely. Every night, the last thought... the last image to enter my mind... is how it used to be. How things were before... before [i]he[/i] showed up. I wrap my arms around myself and fall asleep... utterly alone. Even sharing a tent with seventeen other guys... I fall asleep feeling completely alone... Ever since she left with he-who-must-not-be-named... it takes so much will to avoid breaking down just thinking about it...

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Sorry to ask that, I did not know. Though still, this is quite alien and what from what you've described happen with you, one of the reasons why I'm not interested or even terrified. Seems like relationships change you for better or for worse.... Though in my mind seems like worse what with the increased loneliness.

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Mostly, people would rather share their lifestyle with another person in an intimate way, and it's just natural instinct for most people.

Some are not interested, and that's not wrong.

But with the troubles of a relationship, comes 10x that paid back in joy and fun.

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A relationship its... To me its all about the safety. Being in it makes all the problems in the world seem less, makes all your faults and fears and doubts just fade away when you are with them. Its a person who will still care about you no matter how badly wrongs it goes, and it is also a way to make you into a better person. Now whilst it can lead to an unbeliveable amount of pain and such when it ends but I still retain that it's worth it.

Now my relationship 11 or so Months ago was the best time of my life. I learned so much about how to get along with people, about life and stuff and a whole lot of my self-doubts went away. And when it ended due to an error on my part I admit it killed who I used to be I will admit that. It made me depressed and cynical and hateful of who I am. But my relationship was still worth it. I am a more complete person as a result.

It's my view that your first serious relationship or first lasting relationship at least will go a long way to define you as a person. And that you can't truely know who you are until you've gone through one. Which is wierd since from an outside view it doesn't seem like something so mundane could do that... But wth the right person it's almost magical.

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I am a completely different person now compared to who I was before it. And ironically I've become a similar person to my ex, who went through a similar thing in the aftermath of her first relationship. She kinda summed it up saying we were both on the same path, I just had to catch up to her. Life works in odd odd ways at times.

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I'm just going to be brutally honest with you VK. I've seen what you post and your attitude from those posts.

Nothing, and I mean nothing, any of these people say is going to magically change you. You have to make the effort to know someone, and according from your posts, you don't trust the opposite gender.

Well, that's your problem. You have to try to ignore those feelings and attempt to trust someone a little more. If you aren't going to do that, then there is /zero/ reason for you to even attempt a relationship. Not everyone is going to hurt you.

Being in one can be an absolutely amazing thing, or it can be hell on earth. With your attitude, it would probably be the latter. It might be better for you in general to not be involved in one. It isn't for everyone.

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[quote name='Champion Iris' timestamp='1356886175' post='6106120']
I'm just going to be brutally honest with you VK. I've seen what you post and your attitude from those posts.
Nothing, and I mean nothing, any of these people say is going to magically change you. You have to make the effort to know someone, and according from your posts, you don't trust the opposite gender.
Well, that's your problem. You have to try to ignore those feelings and attempt to trust someone a little more. If you aren't going to do that, then there is /zero/ reason for you to even attempt a relationship. Not everyone is going to hurt you.
Being in one can be an absolutely amazing thing, or it can be hell on earth. With your attitude, it would probably be the latter. It might be better for you in general to not be involved in one. It isn't for everyone.
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AWWWWWWWWWW NO SHE DIDN'T

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[quote name='Oh my Amaterasu!' timestamp='1356886560' post='6106121']
AWWWWWWWWWW NO SHE DIDN'T
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She has a valid point actually.

[quote name='♦~Thug-Life~♦' timestamp='1356884782' post='6106104']
Good thing though. I learned something to. I was a jealous clingy mean boyfriend in my first serious relationship, and now I'm the sweetest in my current relationship (:
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Same

Cept I've gone through 7-8 or so.

All online, mind you.


Though 3-4 girls in my class like me.

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I'm going to contradict what's being said here just a bit (Mainly because I love being the Antagonist) and tell you to get yourself involved with someone. Yes, actually force yourself, (not to get into a relationship, mind you), to simply be involved. I don't care how you do it. Go to a bar and get drunk and talk to a girl (and later wake up to find a phone number in your shirt pocket you remember nothing about) or attend a little league baseball game and talk to one. Just go into society, find a girl, let your guard down, and have a freakin conversation. Where it goes from there, I really don't care. Just come back here with a story about how you made an attempt.

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[quote name='Fluttershy401' timestamp='1356887929' post='6106128']
She has a valid point actually.
Same
Cept I've gone through 7-8 or so.
All online, mind you.
Though 3-4 girls in my class like me.
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How many relationships you been in? I'm very curious, and your age and are you a virgin? You don't have to answer the last part, but this is dating stuff so yeah.

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You know, I would say something about this and take a side, but I have my own troubles to deal with at the moment (For those who don't know what I'm talking about, go back a page or two when I applied to this club and read on. You'll get an understanding of what I'm going through). And right now, I can't side with anybody until after I get this problem situated. As of now, I still have no means of contact, so I basically have to wait until school starts again to do something. Sometimes I hate waiting, and I'm a patient person.

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Scratch that I missed that little ninja acceptance.
OT:[quote name='Champion Iris' timestamp='1356886175' post='6106120']
I'm just going to be brutally honest with you VK. I've seen what you post and your attitude from those posts.

Nothing, and I mean nothing, any of these people say is going to magically change you. You have to make the effort to know someone, and according from your posts, you don't trust the opposite gender.

Well, that's your problem. You have to try to ignore those feelings and attempt to trust someone a little more. If you aren't going to do that, then there is /zero/ reason for you to even attempt a relationship. Not everyone is going to hurt you.

Being in one can be an absolutely amazing thing, or it can be hell on earth. With your attitude, it would probably be the latter. It might be better for you in general to not be involved in one. It isn't for everyone.
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This is the absolute truth and I am going to add some more truths to it. Dating someone helps you discover about 2 things: what you like and who you are. Regardless of how long a relationship lasts, you will take something away from it. People just don't change you because, only the ones you care for the most can even remotely have such an effect on you. You also have the choice to make things difficult for yourself.
Chris Rock once said, when you first meet someone, you are not meeting them, but their representative. These words are true because you have represent what you want the other person to see.
The whole concept of love is based on trust among other things. You're exposing vulnerabilities in yourself in order to be rewarded in strength from another. You CAN be strong and alone, but with love you get a whole new strength.

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[quote name='♦~Thug-Life~♦' timestamp='1356890733' post='6106160']
How many relationships you been in? I'm very curious, and your age and are you a virgin? You don't have to answer the last part, but this is dating stuff so yeah.
[/quote]I've been in 8 or so.

I'm 19, and a virgin :3


You?



Also, Remo, ur silly :'DD

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