Getting your friends together

[Expelsword]

So, I know this guy and this girl, and I swear they are perfect for eachother (y'know they both like Rubik's Cubes, who likes those things?), and they seem to tease eachother quite a bit, lightheartedly.

I approached the guy about it and he denied anything, calling her wierd and annoying, but he always seems to enjoy the time. Eventually, when I pointed out that all the teasing could mean she likes him, he conceded that he [i]maybe [/i][i]would consider it[/i] if the girl really did like him.
He even told me that sometimes they get mistaken for a couple...

Should I ask the girl how she feels about this guy?
Am I playing with fire here?

Has anyone else ever gotten their friends together?

[Darth Revan of the Sith]

Want my honest opinion?

You are meddling in affairs you have no business being in.

That is what I feel. And I honestly think you should stop. Nothing good ever happens from someone taking matters into his own hands. If it happens then they like each other and if it doesn't well then it wasn't meant to be anyways.

[Zelfore]

Life isn't as black and white as a shouja manga.

Letting things happen naturally is your safest bet. When you meddle with intricate machinery, then there's a good chance it will explode in your face. You don't want to meld the two wires together ending up with no spark and breaking the whole thing. /metaphor

Love is tricky, and shouldn't be tampered with from a third-party perspective. Wait, and if they get together, great! Support them fully! Otherwise, let their friendship grow as it has, and maybe it'll transform into something else. (Maybe poke some fun like a normal friend would occasionally, but don't rush it, even if it [b]is [/b]obviously something.)

[FTW (For The Wynn)]

At this point, it is probably considered beating a dead horse, but you probably shouldn't get any more involved than what you are.

First off, some people just enjoy being friends and never want to go past that boundary. This is entirely possible here. Second, if it takes someone else to get them together, that's not a very likely to last romance.

As for setting people up in dates, friends do that sometimes. Blind dates exist for a reason and all that fun stuff. However, keep your involvement to a minimum. Pressuring them to take a leap into something they might not be prepared for only causes problems.

[.Rai]

Well, if you ruin their friendship, I have no sympathy.

I've seen this happen a couple of times within my friend groups. Admittedly, the romantic relationships made are still going, but they're still pretty awkward.

[Great Unclean One: VK]

Your meddling in forces your mind can't comprehend.

Stop it or else something will go terribly terribly wrong.

That and I thought this thread was about friends hanging out, I'm disappoint.

[Tentacruel]

Gonna play Devil's Advocate here.

Force them to fall in love and have tons of babies.

[✪RION]

[color=#800080][b]How about a plutonic relationship? That would work better. Plus, friends hooking up and start dating each other always end up badly. [/b][/color]

[color=#800080][b]Next time, try setting up your friend with someone outside of your circle of friends and you'll see why college kids had a longer relationship compare to high school kids even though they didn't end up together.[/b][/color]

[Expelsword]

Upon futher investigation (without destroying anyone's lives), it won't be happpening. That's as far as I need to go with that, and thanks to all for the warnings to not let it out of hand.

[Darth Revan of the Sith]

[quote name='Hardcore Punk' timestamp='1352657539' post='6066507']
[color=#800080][b]Next time, try setting up your friend with someone outside of your circle of friends and you'll see why college kids had a longer relationship compare to high school kids even though they didn't end up together.[/b][/color]
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First of all, College Kids do NOT have longer relationships than High School kids. The idea of a statistic like that is almost non-existent. And secondly, maybe the person shouldn't get involved with a persons love life in general. No guy wants his friend setting up blind dates for them unless they are really desperate and usually getting involved in their love life is bad anyways and is none of the third party member's business to begin with.

[Marisa Kirisame-ze]

If you're planning on doing this, DON'T RUIN IT FOR THE BOTH OF THEM. The thing that really, really bothers me when friends try to set up two people together is that they don't know how to make things [i]natural[/i], so that things don't get awkward or feel forced. If you know how to keep things flowing and fun and comfortable for the both of them, then help out a bit. But in the end, it's up to those two to really call the shots and make the actions and decide what they want to do. You can be a huge help at first of letting them get to know each other, but after that, leave it alone and just hear them out, instead of trying to set them up.

[Bahamut - Envoy of the End]

Find the whole concept of trying to get friends to go out with other quite disturbing, in a crazy scientist experiment kind of way.

Just really don't think such matters are for meddling.

[Darth Revan of the Sith]

[quote name='Marisa Kirisame-ze' timestamp='1352749697' post='6067607']
If you're planning on doing this, DON'T RUIN IT FOR THE BOTH OF THEM. The thing that really, really bothers me when friends try to set up two people together is that they don't know how to make things [i]natural[/i], so that things don't get awkward or feel forced. If you know how to keep things flowing and fun and comfortable for the both of them, then help out a bit. But in the end, it's up to those two to really call the shots and make the actions and decide what they want to do. You can be a huge help at first of letting them get to know each other, but after that, leave it alone and just hear them out, instead of trying to set them up.
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The thing that really, really bothers me is when people get involved in general.

I am honestly not afraid to say that I feel no third party should ever be involved in someones relationship no matter what, except unless it bears fruit of destruction.

[Marisa Kirisame-ze]

Well, to be honest, there have been times where my own friends have set me up with someone and if it weren't for them, I wouldn't have been able to experience how great it felt to be with her because we barely ever saw each other at school, had no classes, and just knew of each other from our mutual friends. If our friends didn't step in and say, "hey, I think you'd be great with this person," then it would've never happened. We were both too shy to go up to each other on our own, so we just needed that extra help and push. Then the rest, we, of course, took care of. Then my friends stepped back.