Maghion Syaoran Light Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 your 16 yr old daughter's boyfriend comes and introduces himself to you. He seems like a great guy. A Christ follower and hard worker and respectable .... Then you learn he's 21 ... whats your reaction? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Legend Zero Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 Being a liar isn't exactly a good first impression. I say that you refuse to let her see him, because telling a lie to her parents (or having her tell him to lie) obviously means neither of them a mature enough. Make sure to explain this to her in a way that makes it clear to her, hopefully without yelling at her. Though I'm neither a parent or adult myself and it would depend on your child too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simping For Hina Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 I have seen that sig before. Like seriously. My friend made it I believe. It really depends on the type of person you are. I wouldn't really be comfortable with it at all though. It feels like my daughter would have been lying to me until I met her boyfriend, hiding him from me. He also may seem nice and all, but they are 5 years apart. I would ask her to wait 2 more years until she does something like this, then she would be of legal age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desu the Blue Nerd Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 [color=#0000CD]First I'd take a sip of the nice cold or hot drink I'm guaranteed to have for this hypothetical scenario. I believe it'd be a beer because this seems like a beer worthy scenario for a grown up Desu. As to not be rude I'd offer him one as well. We're both of legal age after all. While finishing off our drinks I'd assume we'd have a nice long chat about how wonderful my daughter is. After that I'll kick his ass and throw him out of my house. *Takes sip of imaginary drink.*[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maghion Syaoran Light Posted July 25, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 he is honest about his age and seems sincere but ... to trust him with a 16 year old girl? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enrise Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 [spoiler=My response? Oh dear...] [i]Ah, my daughter has brought her beloved boyfriend home. And my, seems nice I suppose, judging on outward appearances. Wait, what's this, a follower of Christ? Oh dear, oh dear oh dear. It seems I must conceal my religious preferences from my being.[/i] I begin to think at first, but then I look around the house, and notice the large portrait of what Lucifer would be depicted as, a marvelous painting nonetheless. It becomes clear to me. Perhaps he already possesses knowledge of my religious preference, from needless to say, my daughter. It appears that he does not mind my religious beliefs, knowing that he has heard of my reputation of being a notable person of social standings that everyone seems to look up to. How delightful this has become for I. [i]Well, regardless of his religious differences, I must say, I like him so far. Doesn't seem bad at all so far.[/i] "Well, a hard worker and a respectable person of the community? My, it seems that my daughter has picked someone admirable. I can respect that indeed. Young man, I believe we're going to get along quite well, even if we're religiously different, ahaha!" I laughed at my amusement of the scenario. But then, as I learn more information about this man, the knowledge frightens me, no, angers me. But this anger is not towards just him, but to my daughter as well! Oh the situation has taken a turn for the most unexpected and most cruel to my heart.[i]This man! The audacity! Such gall, this apparent gentleman; halt, I revoke the gentle statement. This man!, has dared laid his disgusting hands on my young daughter? Wh-What... What if he committed... Statutory rape? Could that be possible? Dear Lucifer, hold my anger in just a little longer, I do not wish to unleash the monster in me in front of my daughter![/i] "(Daughter's name), your mother's in the kitchen, perhaps she'd be delighted to see your boyfriend?" My daughter goes obediently and no doubt graciously to fetch her mother; while at the moment the daughter has left, I face this disgusting filth in front of me, in my domain. "You! You disgusting filth, you wretched bacteria! You no doubt may have sincere interests for my daughter, but as a man who is such an age has no place in my daughter's life! I dare not hope to think you have committed statutory rape, and if you have, so help me I don't kill you myself." I rush over to the other side of the living room, anger filled and blood-lusting, grabbing the sword that was sheathed in it's scabbard, hanging over the fire place. Recently, the blade was sharped for such protection. I drew my blade, I tossed the scabbard aside, and pointed the tip in his direction. "You vile scum, you human pig! If you do not leave before my daughter returns, pray to your god before your beheading. If you leave, then never return, and [i]never[/i], show yourself to my daughter again!" [i]Words will be exchanged with my daughter in the most unpleasant manner. It appears that her mother will need to talk some sensibility to her about this. I will dread this day for many to come...[/i] [/spoiler] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Origins Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 I wouldn't care. If he's a good, hardworking person, and would take care of things, who am I to interrupt anything? And if she is hurt, that is of her own accord. Unless there are signs of physical abuse or mental abuse on either side of the relationship, I am fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fusion X. Denver Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 That's five years apart. Since she isn't 18, their relationship isn't in the right. Break it off now; if he's still interested in 2 years, then whatever works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Death Metal Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 In my mind there is nothing wrong with it. Age is only a number, he just has to be careful though. Technically that's statutory rape and she can squeal at anytime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Legend Zero Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 [quote name='Maghion Syaoran Light' timestamp='1343188897' post='5988272'] he is honest about his age and seems sincere but ... to trust him with a 16 year old girl? [/quote] Oh, my bad, I misread. =P My parents are 5 years apart so.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miror B Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 Idgaf about age so long as they wait until she's 18 for the marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Î’yakuya Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 For every single one of the situational situations, it depends on the personality and background: Your daughter, her boyfriends, and the environment around. I would just think it through and see what's right for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catterjune Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 It'd be weird as hell. Where a girl's priorities are at age 16 is completly different from where a boy priorities would be at age 21. They'd both be looking for two completely different things in life. She'd be stressing about prom, going to college, SATs. He'd be worried about his job, the economy, rent, car payments, student loans, etc etc. I would wonder what his intentions are with my daughter. Honestly I think the problem would sort itself out, with her immaturity bothering the hell out of him a few months down the line but if they stick through it by the time she's college aged, that'd be fine I suppose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brushfire Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 Well, this is actually a little bit similar to a scenario I myself was in last year. An ex-girlfriend of mine (who was 15) had the choice between me (who was almost 17) or someone who was 19, almost 20. Strangely, it didn't seem that her father had a problem with the other guy, in fact I don't think he made it any secret to who he preferred (he'd often invite the other guy over for things). Luckily, she chose me so I never got to find out how her dad would've actually reacted, but considering how much little privacy we actually got I'd suggest that the other guy would've been severely disappointed in what he received from the relationship. I had a serious answer for this thread, but then I read this and decided it was a much better reaction, and much more befitting to my character: [quote name='Desperado of Finale' timestamp='1343188762' post='5988268'] [color=#0000CD]First I'd take a sip of the nice cold or hot drink I'm guaranteed to have for this hypothetical scenario. I believe it'd be a beer because this seems like a beer worthy scenario for a grown up Desu. As to not be rude I'd offer him one as well. We're both of legal age after all. While finishing off our drinks I'd assume we'd have a nice long chat about how wonderful my daughter is. After that I'll kick his ass and throw him out of my house. *Takes sip of imaginary drink.*[/color] [/quote] [hr] [quote name='Hatcher' timestamp='1343228310' post='5988604'] Honestly I think the problem would sort itself out, with her immaturity bothering the hell out of him a few months down the line but if they stick through it by the time she's college aged, that'd be fine I suppose. [/quote] I think so too. There's no way that I could handle another immature relationship again, it's why I've decided to look much more around the 18 mark instead of 16. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitty Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 [quote name='Maghion Syaoran Light' timestamp='1343186985' post='5988240'] your 16 yr old daughter's boyfriend comes and introduces himself to you. He seems like a great guy. A Christ follower and hard worker and respectable .... Then you learn he's 21 ... whats your reaction? [/quote] [quote name='Maghion Syaoran Light' timestamp='1343188897' post='5988272'] he is honest about his age and seems sincere but ... to trust him with a 16 year old girl? [/quote] *ahem* Let's address this shall we. So my 16 year old daughter brings over her boyfriend. Okay. Seems like a good guy and is a good guy are two totally different words so first I will judge on whether or not he is in fact a "good decent young man" and not just acting because my said daughter has told him all about her judgmental mother. Ah a Christ follower. A religious man he is, well that can work two ways as well but I wouldn't tolerate all the religious talk in my house so I'd over look that. And now he comes out by saying that he's 21. As far as the law is concerned here in Georgia it is legal once the girl is 16 I believe. [b]But,[/b] I would be very angry not only because she's dating him and I had no knowledge of it but the possibility that they have already slept together. I would try to handle this in a calm manner. I would sit the both of them down and ask my daughter what the hell was she thinking first of all. Then I would ask them if they did sleep together; if yes and she is somehow pregnant then I would throw her ass and her boyfriend's ass out of my house, cancel all insurance that I was paying on her, cut off all her finances that are tied to me and disown her. If the answer is no then I would inform the gentlemen that if he didn't want to be castrated and/or turned into a girl then he'd keep his damn hands off of my little girl until she was 21. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Amazing Avian Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 Eh, Its pretty common around here actually, though the guys are rarely anything but lowly thugs. If I can see the guy is a good person, I'd let it continue, but if I see any signs of an abusive relationship, break it off immediately and if there was any sex, have the bastard arrested. Unless of course he was the one being abused, in which case I'd laugh hysterically, taunt him, then just leave it alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catterjune Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 I have no idea what the whole "He's a Christ follower" thing has to do with anything. I don't wanna turn this into a debate or anything, because you can believe that Jesus had a good overall message (be good, pass it on) while believing most of the rest is complete and utter bullshit (the world was made 6k years ago, there was a flood where Noah saved two over ever animal, etc etc). I suppose it depends on just how deeply his religion affected his life and how it affected his as well. If he's jut a good guy who goes to church every Sunday and doesn't try to convert other people, that's fine. If he's disapproves of evolution, insists that men are superior to women, is an intolerant bigot towards other religions, thinks God hates fags, and all the other red state stereotypes I'd probably run them both over with my car, regardless of how old he was. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clair Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 They're just going to break up in a couple of months, anyways. The age gap is too great and she's going to want to be doing other things with her life in two years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Death Metal Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 ^ I think that depends greatly on the type of person she is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
'tyleR Posted July 26, 2012 Report Share Posted July 26, 2012 I like how everyone made this about his religion. That obviously wasn't the point. The point was if the father thought that this 21 year old could keep his penis away from the father's 16 year old daughter. If I were the father I'd say hell no. Just me, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desu the Blue Nerd Posted July 26, 2012 Report Share Posted July 26, 2012 [quote name=''raiN' timestamp='1343273282' post='5989080'] I like how everyone made this about his religion. That obviously wasn't the point. [/quote] [color=#0000CD]Only about half the people here even mentioned his religion and still made the biggest point about his age.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
'tyleR Posted July 26, 2012 Report Share Posted July 26, 2012 [quote name='Desperado of Finale' timestamp='1343273774' post='5989085'] [color=#0000CD]Only about half the people here even mentioned his religion and still made the biggest point about his age.[/color] [/quote] Lololol Point taken, but it's still interesting that anyone even made that an issue at all. :PP Either way, I'd be wondering why this guy can't find a girl his own age, or at least one that's of legal age in general. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Posted July 26, 2012 Report Share Posted July 26, 2012 Could not give less of a f*** about his religion. I'd question how it's possible you know for a fact that he's a hard worker. The age thing would nestle him at negative points off the bat, therefor he's completely out of the picture now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miror B Posted July 26, 2012 Report Share Posted July 26, 2012 [quote name=''raiN' timestamp='1343276673' post='5989114'] Either way, I'd be wondering why this guy can't find a girl his own age, or at least one that's of legal age in general. [/quote] 16 is legal in some places. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simping For Hina Posted July 26, 2012 Report Share Posted July 26, 2012 [quote name='Miror B.' timestamp='1343277560' post='5989128'] 16 is legal in some places. [/quote]I think it is more about where you are from though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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